Jamie Carmelle Antonette

A Beginner’s Guide To Male Chastity There’s something about male chastity that makes it uniquely interesting and exhilarating. It is true that it can look intimidating especially for first-timers but, the experience can be very stimulating and rewarding. By definition, it is the practice of enforcing inhibition on your penis and balls by wearing a cage around it - thus allowing you to become a better slave for your partner/Mistress. If you are just new to the idea and are still hesitant as it may seem that sex and orgasm is limited then worry not, because this is definitely not the case. In fact, it can help your sex life in so many ways possible that it can leave you wondering why you haven’t tried this out sooner before, Now, if you are sold to the idea of adding more spice to the bedroom, then look no further because we got you covered. Our handy guide will provide you with basic tips and expectations during your first few trials of male chastity. Choosing The Right Chastity Cage Choosing the right device can be compared with choosing the right partner; several factors need to be considered, such as your lifestyle, preferences, and most especially the anatomy of your soon-to-be-slave dick. Ideally, when measuring for length, you would know that it's the right size when the tip of your flaccid penis can rest gently against the front of the cage without pushing through the top. Longer sizes result in excessive moisture due to your bodily fluids getting stuck in the cage. It will also give you unnecessary mobility which directly contradicts the idea of locking your cock in the first place. Meanwhile, smaller cages can cause rubbing, pinching, and general discomfort by stuffing your penis inside it. The main goal when getting the right measurements is by measuring yourself a few times for at least a day so that you can allow any changes that your body may experience at different times of the day. The idea of male chastity is to restrict erection; therefore the less space there is, the less comfortable an unannounced erection will be. Choosing The Right Chastity Cage Material Assuming that you’ve measured yourself correctly, you also need to consider the material of your first device. With this, you need to be wary of the comfort level and aesthetic value that needs to be added to it. Silicone is the go-to material for beginners as it is soft and smooth to the touch - thus allowing you to concentrate more on training and familiarization to your new toy. The disadvantage of wearing silicone though is that it needs to be lubricated often to avoid the material to stick on your skin which can result in uncomfortable rubbing and friction. Ideally, stainless steel cages are the best choice for long term usage thanks to its durability. Although it may come with a hefty price tag, we certainly recommend purchasing a device that is made with 100% solid stainless steel as the fake ones may irritate your prized possession. Just to give you a general idea, we have listed down the commonly used materials for cock cages to help you further understand the purpose of each which can ultimately help you decide which to buy. SILICONE As mentioned, silicone is the ideal material used for beginners thanks to its soft and smooth texture which can help enable you to wear it for a long time. They are known to be extremely comfortable as they are also very lightweight. It is also perfect for sensitive skin that is prone to cuts, nicks, and bruises. The only thing that you need to remember though is that although it is smooth to the touch, you need to apply a generous amount of lube regularly to avoid it sticking on your skin. PLASTIC This flexible material can be used for beginners and experienced chastity slaves due to its lightweight material which makes it very comfortable to wear. However, enclosing your cock in plastic can make you feel too enclosed as it may restrict airflow. This may cause sweating which can lead to discomfort but still very manageable. It is not too extreme but it would help to bear this in mind especially for beginners. Having said that, plastic cages are great for restriction as some of it can fully enclose your penis, hence, masturbation is definitely out of the window! METAL Perhaps the most ideal material used to practice chastity, metal chastity cages are your go-to material if you want something more powerful and extreme. It provides more restriction and control to the wearer thus providing a more distinct and intense experience. Steel cages are usually equipped with a robust locking mechanism that can securely lock you up - thus preventing masturbation and even arousal. It is also very easy to clean and wash as you can even submerge it in boiling water to completely sterilize the device. One thing that you need to consider though is that since it is more secure, it can also be quite difficult to remove than other materials. Therefore, we advise to formulate safety measures when using a metal cage, Get Grooming! Male chastity goes hand in hand with hygiene as it goes with discipline. It is important to trim your hair short so that it won’t get caught up in the device but don’t shave it. Growing hairs can cause an uncontrollable itch which could affect your playtime sessions as you need to remove the device every time you need to scratch it off. The rule of thumb is to thoroughly clean your cage before and after use. Ideally, you need to wash it every day and store it in a clean, cool place. However, you need to remove it for every cleaning session or at least until you’ve managed to leave it spotless, especially when you practice wearing it for an extended period. Cleaning 101 Being locked up in chastity is no excuse for bad personal hygiene. Even if you are in the middle of your playtime session with your Mistress, you may ask her to unlock you, supervise the cleaning process, or stay close to watch over you as you’re maintaining the device. After taking the device off, check your package and cage in detail to ensure that there are no signs of irritation. We recommend using a mild and/or antibacterial soap as the skin around the penis is highly sensitive to irritants. Find the right products that best suit you and your device and do not hesitate to change your soap should you feel any discomfort during or after use. Thoroughly wash both your cock and the cage, then make sure that both are completely dry before putting the device back on. If you tend to be more tedious with the cleaning process, you may go ahead and sterilize the cage by using alcohol or boiling it in hot water. However, if you will do this you need to be considerate of the material used as boiling it to a certain degree can cause damage. One Step At A Time It’s common for people to try chastity and orgasm denial all in one go, as they think they have enough willpower to immediately wear the cage for an extended time Remember, your brain may have adjusted already but your cock also needs some time in adapting to its new, confined environment. If you’re trying it for the first time, then we suggest to just take it slow and give yourself time to get the feel of having your cock locked and denied orgasm. While waiting for your device, you may very well try abstaining for a few days to get an overall idea of how male chastity works. The idea of chastity is abstinence, which is your key to achieve a more powerful orgasm when you’re finally allowed to. We suggest increasing it gradually, put it on for a couple of hours, and slowly build your time to a day. Assess yourself regularly after every use to make proper adjustments until you can wear it for a prolonged period Locked Up Overnight Once you’re used to being locked up for hours, then it's time to take it to the next level by wearing the device overnight. Before we proceed, you need to know that this can be very challenging if not carefully planned out. Constriction comes with chastity and it can cause some discomfort when you are trying to relax all other muscles of your body. It is suggested that you take a break for a few hours before going to bed with your cage on. Use a generous amount of lube especially when you are using silicone or plastic devices to avoid it clinging on to your skin. There will be times that you’ve woken up with an erection but don’t worry as this is completely normal. A full bladder may cause this so go ahead and immediately relieve yourself then walk around until your penis becomes flaccid again. If you are unable to sleep after this, it is okay to take the cage off. Your keyholder would understand that you are still in the adjustment phase and that you may resume in the morning. Communication Is The Key The idea of giving up your sexual freedom may seem intimidating and challenging, as we are often used to getting our fix whenever we want. In a nutshell, chastity is allowing someone to have total control over your sexuality, thus depriving yourself of otherworldly pleasures until your Mistress allows you. Nowadays, men are caging up themselves as the idea of being locked up and deprived excites them even further. Having these in mind, your ideals and goals must be in total sync with your partner. In fact, one of the common rules in BDSM is having a safeword. This can be crucial in forced chastity since you are giving up your sexual freewill to the person who will be dominating you. During the first few days of chastity, you may talk to your keyholder regularly to discuss how the cage feels. If everything seems to fall into place, then you may go ahead and proceed to the next level which is long-term chastity. This is when you can experiment being locked up for days, weeks, and even months on end. Even then, when you feel unnecessary pain during the ordeal then you need to communicate this with your partner. Chastity isn’t necessarily about torture and pain (unless this is your fantasy), so trust and mutual enjoyment is a must. Ideally, it is a sexual fetish that can help boost your relationship and bond with each other. Chastity Contract We cannot stress enough on how important communication is when it comes to male chastity. For some, the uncertainty and excitement is the very reason they pursue this kink. However, most people still like to discuss and sort out all issues before they dive into the magical world of cage play. We are all different in various ways, some men fantasize about the uncertainty of not knowing when they will be free again. It may be the complete opposite for others though as the experience may be quite agonizing for them. During your first few days of trial, you may thoroughly discuss things with your partner so that everything is covered. For instance, you can talk to them on how long you should keep the cage on, do they need to be present during cleaning sessions, under what circumstances can the safeword be used, etc. Covering all grey areas is necessary so that both of you have a solid plan should unexpected situations arise. Although the idea is surrendering your free will, it never hurts to have a backup key for emergency purposes, especially if you have crossed the path to long-term chastity. You may also discuss alternative ways on how to meet yours or your partner’s sexual needs during the locked up period such as trying out sensual masturbation or various sexual positions during cage play. Enjoy Being Locked Up! While male chastity is all about discipline and self-control, it doesn’t mean that you can't have fun while being locked up. On the contrary, it can be really fun once you get the hang of it. There is no right or wrong way to practice chastity nor a definite guideline that needs to be strictly followed (except your Mistress’ rules of course) since all of us are different in so many ways. Others would want to feel the heightened lust for orgasm when locked up for an extended period. While others would consider being caged for only a few hours just to build enough excitement which would naturally lead to mindblowing sex. Plus, it is comforting to know that your partner/keyholder/Mistress is willing to give some of their time to look after you during chastity. Another important thing to remember is that you still need to take breaks every once in a while. This is mainly for precautionary measures such as cleaning, maintenance, checking for any discomfort, pain, and irritation. Ideally, chastity should be about constriction and control, not pain and suffering (unless you want to) as it can be a fascinating experience for you and your partner. Do not be ashamed of indulging in those well-earned breaks (or even orgasms!) and do whatever you can to further alleviate your mind, body, and soul. Only then will you truly appreciate the benefits of locking yourself up. Now that you’ve immersed yourself in male chastity, we hope that you achieve your goal of starting this practice in the first place. Always keep your motivation intact because the rewards that come from orgasm denial and being locked up can surely outweigh the initial struggles and inconveniences on your first few days of chastity. Lastly, expect to have your sexual tension increase exponentially, knowing that you have lost all control and can’t do anything about it. Instead of the usual way of racing to orgasm, you will learn how to savor the lust that is slowly taking over you.