Syed Umar Ahmed

Don't Let the Hurdles Become Consequential You overcome the problems, problems don’t overcome you! Is that the thought that you have been memorizing into your mind time and again in an attempt to defy those worries and troubles. How long have you been worried about the non-resolution of such problems? Are you the only one who finds it hard to cope up with certain difficult scenarios? No!  you are not the only one lacking such facet of courage, that would ultimately provide a meaningful resolution to all your worries. Well, there exists a four-part passage to get rid of your worries. First Step: Escaping The Line Of Fire The journey towards tranquility begins with the very first step involving your very being to step forward from that chronic territory, and put an end to the conflict and avoid being at the ‘daggers drawn’ state in a longer run. If the ugly situation continues to grow stronger and the reconciliation tactics become vague, then there is no use of being in that atmosphere anymore, whether or not, the issue is resolved, just keep yourself away from that territory for the time being. This step is considered to be the hardest of them all, as prolonged distress, persistent problems can make you despond over the passage of time, to such an extent that you feel like having yourself accustomed to it. Second Step: Emotional Rehabilitation Keeping yourself away from that UNPLEASANT atmosphere for the time being, is certainly not the solution to the problem. Even though, you have distance yourself from being in that "nerve-wracking" scenario, nevertheless it is pertinent to say, that you should now work on breaking the psychological hold, that had developed during that awkward situation. By saying so, means, that it is truly essential that now you start practicing to forget the bad deeds that happened, wipe off bad thoughts from your mind, so that you feel fresh and relaxed, this way you not only progress towards the meaningful resolution yet at the same time you advance yourself to achieving the psychological harmony within yourself. An emotional rearrangement would therefore be necessary to collect the tousy pieces of that very emotions, that were left apart during the phase of that unpleasant episode.   Third Step: Promoting Diligent Approach To Problem-Solving Finally, you think you have gotten yourself out of the difficult situation, but no, not so fast mate, you still got lot more things to perform to reach to the final resolution. Getting out of one situation doesn’t necessarily mark an end to the problem, another problem of the same nature, same intensity or even the opposite case, would be skulking and you might not be aware about that. You need to be prepared, to face the worst, you need not to be overconfident that you are the problem solver and you have got the resolution to the problem, and no other problems whatsoever would occur henceforth. I wish, that this happens, but wise people always look at both sides of the coins, they don’t really stop after achieving their goals, what they do, they look forward to making things better, yet at the same time preparing themselves for the worst as well. Now if something worse happen in the future again, it will be you to decide, what were the steps taken by you, that minimized the hazards of that very situation. It will be you to decide, what to do, when to do, what not to do, in order to prevent that problem from becoming unsolvable. Support of other people, some professionals, some good peers, could also be required at times, when there seems to be no hope, when you feel dejected, you don’t feel fit enough to solve the problem single-handedly. Inspiring people can reinforce your struggling tactics, and can warmly support you in your trouble times.  Fourth Step: Discovering Yourself The first 3 steps pertained to the tactics of distancing yourself from worrisome situations, but it doesn’t land you at a safer place. You are now required to build a framework for yourself underlying your superlative attributes, defining WHO actually you are, WHAT are you good at, WHAT qualities lies within you, your dignity, your self-esteem. This step teaches you how to forget about the worrisome happenings and how to build within yourself a sense of realization about yourself. This in turn, motivates you, becoming a productive citizen, adding values to your society and producing effective outcomes in a longer term.