Shayma Vawda

The New Rules of Dating Times are changing rapidly and faster than usual. It’s almost impossible to keep up. Dating has also become a lot easier, now with dating sites and social media. We live in a world were finding a new guy is as easy as going to the store. Many people are crossing the boundaries and even re-writing them. Most of the people of today are thriving in this new dating world. They find it to be more diverse and fun. Whether you have been single or just you are recently divorced, here are some new dating rules to follow that can get you ‘the guy’ of your dreams and get you into the fun new dating world. Try different platforms and places Sometimes what you want and need isn’t always in front of you. Don’t be afraid to try new social media platforms and start looking for people. Also going to different places can also be a wonderful way to meet new guys. Be spontaneous, guys really love that in a woman. No more waiting Yes, you heard me correctly. The waiting game is over! There’s no longer such thing is being coy and waiting for him to make the first move. Like in other aspects of life, when you want something, you reach for it. In today’s times, it’s pretty much a scenario of ‘get to the point’ and don’t waste any time. Or, someone else will. Getting a partner is everybody’s dream and goal. Therefore, if you feel he might be the one, go for it! Start by responding to his texts much faster. Boundaries So you have just recently started dating, that’s wonderful. However, you should also have time for yourself, your friends, family etc. There is no hard and fast rule that you have to have sex on the third date or you need to spend hours with your new partner. You are the architect of your life and you can decide how to set your boundaries. If you are living in a city, time for you can be quite limited, therefore try and find a balance in your life. If you feel that you and your partner don’t click on your first date or you feel miserable when you are around him all the time, it’s time to let go and move on. This is an old saying and luckily it will never go out of fashion: There’s plenty of fish in the sea. Know what you want and what you are looking for For women who reside in the suburbs, it makes it a whole lot easier, as you are most likely to find someone who shares the same culture, values, lifestyle etc as you. Whereas, for women that reside in the city, there is a lot of diversity, this can make it difficult to find what you are looking for. A psychologist once explained that if two individuals are alike and share the very same set of morals and values, it makes it easier for them to develop a fulfilling life and they have a better understanding of one another. Remember, there is a lot more than good looks and a massive bank account. Your social media profiles Your profiles basically say everything about you. Upload a cute and nice looking picture of yourself. By this, I definitely don’t mean naked pictures. Vice versa, when you are viewing a guys profile, the first thing you look at, is the picture. It’s just human nature. Also avoid having group pictures as your display picture, or else the guys won’t know who you are. Try and upload summer photos, rather than winter photos. Summer photos are far more attractive than winter photos. Write about yourself, your profession, your likes such as your hobbies, favorite TV shows, books and everything about yourself. Texting If you haven’t been in the dating game for a while, familiarize yourself with the texting and the texting language. Thanks to smartphones, communication has never been easier. Drop him a text during the day saying ‘I miss you’ or ‘I can’t wait to see you again’. Trust me, guys love this and it shows your interest in them, which they find quite flattering. If you are in a long distance relationship, communication becomes even more vital. Thanks to technology, we have the luxury of video calling, download Skype or Hangouts so you can have some face to face chat time with your partner. Watch your posts on social media Be prepared to have your Facebook, Twitter and all other profiles viewed. Be prepared to even be Googled. Men like to dig deep and see what your history looks like. Putting up a picture of yourself on a wild night out or a kinky picture of your ex is most likely to push any potential partners away. It also doesn’t give you a good and lady-like impression. This is a turn off for men. The roles have changed When I say this, I mean the men are sitting at home and raising the kids and women are paying for the night out. The old fashioned rule, that the guy pays for everything is now flexible and things are sometimes even a combined effort. That’s how the dating world has become. Keep a watch for multi dating This has become reality, where the guy or girl is seeing more than one person. As we call it, ‘the dating game.’ It is always to good idea to watch out for this especially if you really falling for the guy or you are planning on having a long term relationship with them. Charm and charisma This is my all time favorite; let’s face it, us women love men who are charming. Charm and charisma goes both ways. It’s not that difficult either, it can be as simple as throwing a surprise dinner, writing thank you notes, calling or texting to say that you are thinking of him, tweeting about him and just about anything. The key to a successful relationship is simply just being thoughtful and considerate towards one another. Age is just a number People of today’s times truly believe that age is just number and that you are as young as you feel. Well, in my opinion that depends on entirely your discretion and feelings. If he makes you happy and you see a long term relationship in future, irrespective of age, then go for it! Honesty This rule will never fade away or get re-written. Honesty is the best policy. If you don’t like the guy or you don’t see yourself ever being happy with him, tell him straight out in a polite manner. As hurtful as it might be, it is still the best thing to do. Another issue is, a lot women pretend to be someone they are not; be yourself. If he is unhappy with it, then he is not the one. You rather be disliked for someone that you are, rather than be loved for someone whom you are not. If things go wrong Breaking up happens more than you can imagine in today’s time. The best thing you can do for yourself, should this ever happen to is move on, don’t let yourself go and put yourself out there. As I said earlier; there’s plenty of fish in the sea.