Sammy James

Parenting; How to Help a Child with Behavioral Problems. The biggest problem faced by many parents all over the world is how to deal with a defiant child. A child with behavior issues may cause stress and frustration to the entire family, and at times at school. For children below eight years, this problem is not categorized as diagnostic; however, there are signs that a parent can use to notice whether a child is developing behavioral problems. Some of these signs include anxiety, a child being manipulative, having severe tantrums and also a continued child defiance to authority; parents, teachers and those older than the child. Most of the time these kids are labeled as disruptive, dangerous or mean. Oppositional Defiant Disorder and its Symptoms Often behavioral issues in children are not termed as a diagnostic problem; however this is a problem that if not dealt with accordingly could cost the child's social life and affect their classroom performance. Children who exhibit noticeable behavior issues are given a formal diagnostic problem called Defiant Disorder Problem. The defiant child shows these defiant behaviors to people well familiar with them, like parents/care givers and their peers (friends). Some of the signs to tell whether your child suffers ODD include: Tendency to lose their temper so often, Annoying other people intentionally and often, They tend to like arguing with their parents or defying authority, They like blaming other people for their fallouts. Early Causes of Child’s Behavioral Problems Apparently, most children’s behavioral issues are brought about by poor parenting. As a toddler, a child needs to experience a secure attachment to their primary caregiver, which in most cases is the parent. A toddler with a secure attachment will want to learn their surroundings with excitement and curiosity; they will also exhibit a high degree of trust and confidence. They will often come back to their caregiver, as they feel secure with them. An insecurely attached toddler will avoid being close to their caregiver, most often they will grow anxious and curious to know whether or not can they depend on their caregiver. Children with this kind f problem tend to have numerous temper issues, be prone to accidents and grow desperate for attention. At their early school years, these children tend to have a low tolerance to frustrations and later in years develop behavioral problems. How to Help Change a Child’s Behavior There are two ways to help a child with behavioral disorders. One of them is the parent taking a positive approach towards changing the child's behavior, and two, mostly applied with extreme behavioral problems, by the parents or the caregiver consulting an Applied Behaviors Analysis professional. Positive Approach Children will continue practicing a particular behavior if it is continuously rewarded, and stop the same when it is discouraged or punished. Parents can raise children with good behavior without necessarily having to punish them. One method to do that is by introducing a reward system. Children who grow knowing that there is a reward for "being good" and if they "be bad" they will suffer the consequences tend to learn a lifetime lesson in good behavior. Make it clear to the child your expectations on behavior and the reward they get if they obey. If you be true to your word, trust me, you will never lift a cane towards your child. Other means is by helping to manage a child's environmental and emotional factors, adjusting the surroundings; for example when it homework time, you get rid of all destructions including video games and toys, providing your child with clear transitional countdown, like informing them some minutes before they should leave one activity to the other, and finally, and this is very important; letting your child be a part of the decision making. By giving the child a guided choice can make them feel reliable and grow as a self-regulating child. Guided options are like asking your child whether they would like to have a shower before or after dinner. Applied Behavior Analyst Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) is a kind of therapy that aims at improving particular behaviors like social skills, academic, and communication among others. ABA can be used with adults and children with psychological problems in given settings like workplaces and schools. According to Center for Autism, ABA helps autistic people learn new skills, improve their social interactions and maintain acceptable behavior. Also, ABA assists autistic people to switch practices and skills from one situation to the other, and controlling arising bad behaviors. What to Expect From Applied Behavior Analysis From an ABA therapist, you will be able to: Notice and determine which behaviors you need to change, To set target goals and what you expect from the sessions, Find ways to examine your improvements, Learn new skills on how to avoid bad behavior and maintain a good one, Review your current behavioral position Determine whether you require the therapist's sessions. Conclusion As a company lays down plans to counter competition, so does a winning football team plans how to beat their opponents. A winning parent has to have a parenting plan as well.