Saifuddin Akber Ali

Book Summary Title of the book: Untamed: Stop pleasing, start living Paperback Author of the book: Glennon Doyle Year of the book: 12 Mar. 2020, First Edition Author of the summary & review Ali Saifuddin Ali Review Rating of the book -4.5 Category of the book Please mark TOP 3 most relevant categories (underline the YES text). This book can help:                  Learn how to get RICH? YES | NO Learn how to improve HABITS? YES | NO Learn how to be HAPPIER? YES | NO Learn how to find INNER PEACE, be MINDFUL? YES | NO Learn how to find PURPOSE in life? YES | NO Learn how to find MOTIVATION & INSPIRATION? YES | NO Learn how to improve/create RELATIONSHIPs? YES | NO Learn how to increase SELF-LOVE or SELF-CONFIDENCE? YES | NO Learn how to LIVE HEALTHIER? YES | NO Learn about BUSINESS and ENTREPRENEURSHIP? YES | NO Learn about SALES & MARKETING? YES | NO Learn about TIME MANAGEMENT, PRODUCTIVITY, BRAIN? YES | NO Learn about LEADERSHIP, MANAGEMENT, career tips? YES | NO Learn about PSYCHOLOGY? YES | NO Learn about how to improve WRITING, COMMUNICATION, SOFT SKILLS? YES | NO Learn about SELF FULFILLMENT? YES | NO Learn about INTROSPECTION? YES | NO Your favorite quote from the book Revelation must come before a revolution Description for search engines (Google etc.)  Untamed-Stop pleasing start living, by Glennon Doyle is a non-fiction introspective biography of a brave and courageous woman. Main chapters: Introduction  This is a biography of a woman who fought childhood bulimia, adolescence drugs and, alcohol addictions to become an iconoclastic and inspirational writer. After years of unfulfilled marriage, three children, and divorce she finally broke the shackles and found real love and fulfilled life remarrying a woman she fell in love at first sight. Summary of the book Untamed, Start living stop pleasing is the third book by Glennon Doyle. It is an introspective account of her life to inspire other women to discover themselves. She was diagnosed with bulimia at the age of 10 which later led to alcohol and drug addiction. Pregnant and addicted, at the age of 26, she started her rehabilitation and a year later married Craig Melton, the father of her child. She went on to have two more children from Craig Melton and also started a successful carrier as an inspirational writer with her first book published in 2013 which coincided with the revelation of her husband’s infidelity. Emotionally traumatized, she finally sought a divorce in 2016. In 2017 she married Abby Wambach whom she fell in love with during the launch of her second book. A snapshot of the book Untamed Start living stop pleasing is presented below to arouse further interest. Prologue: It is not crazy for a content caged Cheetah in the zoo to dream for the wild, as she is, after all, a Cheetah Part One Caged            Sparks: For the author Marrying Abby Wambach is akin to the caged Cheetah’s dream of the wild coming true. Apple: Wanting to know without limits is freedom Blow Jobs: Follow your knowing no matter how unreal it seems and don’t settle for less. Direction: Young generation is bereft of humanity due to constant bombardment of stereotyped images of masculinity or femininity. Polar Bears: Sensitive people like her daughter Tish are considered essential but inconvenient by human societies. Essential because they sense problems early and inconvenient because they slow down progress. Tick Marks: Perception of reality rather than the reality itself, leads to impaired decision making. Algorithms: Firm decision is better than indecision Gatherings: Intrinsic people act from inside out and get what they want, while extrinsic people act outside in and deprive themselves of what they want. Rules: If permitted, it is better to break rules that make you suffer. Dragons: To live a meaningful life It is important not to ignore the deep truth inside us which remains still to the dynamics of our lives Arms: We can turn our life’s moral curve in a particular direction provided we turn it with all our strength Part Two: Keys     Feel: Sixteen years of suffering from bulimia, alcohol, and drug addiction taught the author that one has to feel the pain to end the suffering. Knowing: Let your inner self guide you during uncertainty. Imagine: To make life real and lovely, imagine everything real and lovely and work to attain it Let it burn: To build everything anew, everything old, except what is true, has to be burnt. Part three: Free                              Ache: Don’t let the ache wear you down. Press on and hope it will go away. Ghost: Trying to become a perfect human is like chasing ghost Smiles: Smile says it all Goals: You don’t have to be good, just be free. Adam and keys: You don’t have to be bounded by your word, be free to do whatever you want. Ears: Being daring is to abandon everyone and be true to oneself. Terms: Know the reality, trust it and do the next thing you want to do Erikas: Women must stop being frightful and start trusting themselves. The World would benefit from uncontrolled women. Beach House: Women must own their desires even at the cost of what they have. Temperatures: Women must trust themselves Mirrors: Let the knowledge in your inner self direct your actions. Eyes: Woman should be a model for her children, not a martyr Gardens: Know the emotion, don’t act for it. Vows: Be honest with your children. Don’t protect them, help them protect themselves Touch Tree: Let your self be your touch tree, to which you can return every time you venture out in the unknown. Buckets: Let yourself be the sea, instead of being contained in a bucket Attendants: All the members of a family must care for each other to ride through testing times Memo: Love and teach your children, don’t facilitate them. Let them struggle. Poems: Be responsive to your child needs and act, no matter how much against it is to the cultural norms Boys: The process of woman freeing themselves must also include freeing up the men in their lives Talks: Disappoint as many people as you have to in the process of avoiding being disappointed yourself Woods: Don’t question your kid, rather be brave to ask tough questions with them. Cream Cheese: Providing your children the best, won’t make them the best. Bases: Teach your children to have empathy for others. Island: A responsible mother in a disobedient daughter. Boulders: Love your child irrespective of how you were loved by your parents. Bloodbaths: Tell the truth irrespective of how people would react to it. Racist: To purge a wrong you have to look inside out Questions: let everybody be unbounded like a sea, instead of being bound like water in a glass                      Permission Slips: You don’t have to be bounded by your word, be free to do whatever you want. Concessions: Don’t banish someone who reveals his/her identity to you, but consider yourself lucky to have been honored. Knots: When someone shuns an institution that represents God, that person takes God with him her, because God is not in the institution, it is inside the person. Decals: Don’t be judgmental, treat all fellow humans equally, and leave the judgment to the Creator. Girl gods: God cannot be gendered Conflict: Trust your knowledge, rather than the self-appointed representatives of God Streams: To alleviate the sufferings of someone in the downstream, find out who in the upstream is responsible for it and hold them accountable. Lie: Be true when telling stories about yourself Deliveries: The delivery of sorrow is metamorphosis, so concede Invaders: Management of Psychological disorders is essential because they are invaders that suck you out from yourselves Comfort Zones: Due to our conditioning we tend to have an affinity for suffering women and dislike for confident ones. Elmer: Do what you enjoy the most Luckies: During a hard time imagine a picture of a good time and revisit that picture whenever the going gets tough Buzzes: If you are to sustain the initial buzz of love life for a long time, then try to always be your original self Sandcastles: Women should define themselves by their personalities not by their roles which are like sandcastles, they vanish with the tide Guitars: Doing what you enjoy will make you less bitter about others doing the same. Braids: Value people who value your love Seconds: Don’t be imposing, be supportive Ideas: Don’t ignore your knowing Sidelines: A family must grow from inside out Levels: Stay on to anything until you know Key Lessons Lesson 1: Know the reality       Wanting to know without limits is freedom Follow your knowing no matter how unreal it seems and don’t settle for less Don’t ignore your knowing Let knowing to be your guide in uncertainty Stay onto anything until you know Trust your know Lesson 2: Freedom    Wanting to know without limits is freedom You don’t have to be bounded by your word, be free to do whatever you want. The process of woman freeing themselves must also include freeing up the men in their lives Lesson 3: Endure Pain   Sixteen years of suffering from bulimia, alcohol and drug addiction taught the author that one has to feel the pain to end the suffering Don’t let the ache wear you down. Press on and hope it will go away. Lesson 4: Truth at all cost    Be true when telling stories about yourself Tell the truth irrespective of how people would react to it. Being daring is to abandon everyone and be true to oneself. Review of the book I think this an excellent book for inspiring modern-day women to tackle the problems they face at a personal level, at home, at work, and as mothers. It also provides useful insights into managing pain and suffering for personal growth. The candid manner in which the author has dealt with the subject of truth and how being truthful to oneself can solve so many problems at the personal level. The author’s view on religion seems a bit controversial but daring and bold none the less. How she has described the handling of her pains and suffering is truly inspirational. All in all, it is a book written with plenty of grit, passion and, gusto, and for that, the author needs to be applauded. General Conclusion The Book is a great source of inspiration for women in general and especially for the women who have been facing problems similar to one that the author has faced during her lifetime. Most modern women (especially in the west) can relate themselves to the book and I would recommend it to women of all ages. :::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::::: Checklist for things after writing   I checked the text with free Grammarly browser plugin and I corrected all mistakes (copy & paste the text into Grammarly) and with free Scribens.com (https://www.scribens.com/) Grammarly checker I checked the text with https://searchenginereports.net/plagiarism-checker and nothing is marked as plagiarism