Sabah Sayyed

Values- How to instill in your child. Every parents dream to have a kind, admirable children. To achieve this it is very important to establish the goodness of values in a child right from the starting. Let us learn with a real life example and follow some useful steps given in this article. The phone rang and Jannet asked her 5 year old son to answer the call, that 'mummy is not at home'. A few weeks later, her son started making excuses for not attending the class and request's his mother to write a leave application for him stating, 'My son is not keeping well’. Well ! what was going on there.... let me explain. Values are wonderful things be it kindness, generosity, integrity, respect for elders, love for children, honesty, discipline, punctuality, dignity, humbleness, mercy towards poor, charity, thanks giving, truthfulness etc. They do wonders in life. Persons with values are highly respected in a society. Others gives examples of them and are remembered even after 100 years. A person with high values always remains immortal. The down to earth nature of Sir APJ Abdul Kalaam Azaad of not accepting a bigger chair offered to him at a student convocation at IIT Varanasi and instead he offered it to the Vice Chancellor is still remembered and appreciated in a gathering of thousands. Every parents likes to instill these values in their child. But it is not possible if we as a parent is not practically following it. How would you make your child realize the importance of speaking the truth, if you yourself don't speak the truth????? Yes! the same was the case with Jannet. Values are a set of individual beliefs of do's and dont's which a person learns start from the childhood. And of course, its parents who plays a vital role in establishing these values in their child. To develop these values in your child is not a tough task. But a kick start of making a list of rules and practically following them in a everyday life and believe me this will make it really easier and simpler and in a few days you are on the go. I will help you with some and here they are. Rule no 1- Always speak the truth with your child. Don't even lie them by luring them for some fantasies for not doing the homework or not listening to you. Rule no 2 - Don't break promises made to them. And if a situation demands speak to them and they will understand. By doing these they will learn to respect others feelings and they will learn to fulfill promises made. Rule no 3- Always be generous with your affection. Scolding every time will make them unkind. And never ever punish them in front of others this will only make them feel insulted. Rule no 4- Conversation is very important. Talk with your child, share your ideas, views. By doing so they will open to you and will understand you better. Rule no 5- Show value to them by listening to their thoughts and ideas. Rule no 6- Respect their feelings by apologizing to them and this way they will learn to respect others feelings, accepting one's mistakes and forgiving others. Rule no 7- Appreciate for every good work they do and thanks them whenever possible. Remember the pair of words ‘Thank You’ is the most powerful words, they open the doors of the hearts. With the help of these set of rules make your own, start with the most important and basic such as honesty, respect, truthfulness and within a few weeks you will see a great difference. Wish you a good luck…………Thank You.