Ridwan Oladimeji Ojo

Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo All right reserved No part of this work may be reproduced or utilized in any form or by any means, electronic or mechanical, including photocopying and recording or by any information storage and retrieval system, except with the permission of the author. ©April, 2018 2 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo For individuals who want to make the sun shine never to dim again. 3 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo INTRODUCTION The understanding in exhibition of greatness in individuals comes with a great ordeal in mastery. The process in being wary of the self in individual and admittance of the need in amassing the beneficial to make a great is as contained in this book. The book lists a six-step process in achieving self-development. This is one of the reckoned soft skills which the circus of the great expects in individuals of encounter. Reading through and application of the lessons in this book will efficiently aid in achieving a self-developed personality. To best yet unleashed in you, CHEERS! 4 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 1 SELF-RECOGNITION Brevity on this topic might be a bull eye rather than a lenghty one; to protect the quality and hit the message point on. Linguistically, recognition can be regarded as acceptance of validity. This implies knowing well what it is. Being aware of the observable. Self-recognition can thus be referred as the state of understanding oneself and accepting the validity of one's current status. Deeming what lags and what is apparent as abundance. A trigger of the time bomb for an explosion in character. Let us take a simple ample sip. Simplicity is the key; they say. Understanding the self in you is a great deal with your being. A great favour which counts in those ascribing worthy of value, making man wandered in his realm for a quest of a missing, or hidden, treasure. This enables an individual to be wary of what is missing and needed in them. A need to know the missing recipe of a delicacy. In so doing, a dire need arises for an incorporation of the missing lamb, so the flock may flourish. This presents an individual to understand his need to acquire the needful as per learning. There's no acquisition except with learning. A step towards self-development. 5 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 2 SELF-RECOMMENDATION The truth of ages, an emblem of the sage. Thus, every man knows that which he wants. A resonancy through historical times to this day and after. Invaluable saying worthy of a greater stone to diamond, if there is. Obviously, there's no falsity in the statement. Only a man betraying his soul, with deceit, will argue otherwise. Self-recommendation comes with great task. A scrutinizing process to avoid erring because it might take a lifetime to rectify. A decision with its responsibility and aftermath. In this process, an individual decides what should be absorbed and from whom. Necessarily, it may come from one within his niche, a far individual or words penned. Despite, it is a sip from a fountain. Some might take a mouthful, individually dependently. In this, such individual is ready to accept every word without argument. Likewise, he is ready to put them into action. The only point where there's submission to what may be regarded as the knowledge of the other. Yet, wisdom is required in absorption. A great course. Be wise in whom you take as mentors. Mentorship comes with great price, both on the mentor and mentee's sides. 6 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 3 A NEWLING Shall I leave to you a quest, lexicon search for a grasp? Rather, an explicit explanation, as regards this piece, will be made. Newling. A single, simple word very difficult to become in actions. Only a few can do that; provided they stopped being egoistic. Becoming a newling is a sign of readiness to learn. A large window of opportunity for individuals in its action. Difficult as it seems, it deems the easiest too upon understanding what may be of value. A psychological warfare. Becoming a newling is subscribing yourself to the mindset of not knowing and wanting to learn. You register into your subconscious mind that you don't know but eager to learn. Apparently, you know but you are only preventing your known(s) from conflicting what may be taught. A segregation process, yet a great favour in the course of learning. Involving in this creates path to the hidden treasure of knowledge. Allowing an individual to amass greatly, consciously unaware. The only recipe that makes the baker wants to add more flavour for a great taste, until it seems satisfiable. For a man who knows not, admits not knowing and ready to know is on an adventure to the undiscovered other world. 7 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 4 PRACTISING SCHOOL Wisely said, "Practice makes perfection...” A half quote? Yes. A need for the other on another good day. Just take a chill pill. Quantitatively, there are more of those holding unto their knowledge than those practising same teachings. Obviously, those with the practice get to be the better. This occurs because they fear not to err in their dealings of the acquired knowledge. They comprehend that there's a need to err and take wisdom in it rather than being engulfed by the fear of doings and being stagnant, as ever. The fear, of what may, causes many to shy away from practicing their knowledge. Despite, some shun sayings from the society as to practicing. The succession of the practising and non-practising is obviously gappy. Wisdom of which the practising err, learn and grow is beyond the acquired and expected. No value is placed on a knowledge concealed and not exhibited in actions. Some argued it is an act of deceit, others said it is cowardice. Either, the best of knowledge are those in actions because they leave rooms for growth. Don't just acquire knowledge but practice your lessons. 8 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 5 DISCIPLINE "...consistency makes expertise". Yes, the completing part. Now, you can send the pill down the muscular tube accompanied with a gulp of saliva. No! Water, I meant to say. Dreams are realized not occasionally but on continuous dealings. Often, people wane in actions as time dues, thinking they have attained the zenith of what seems succession to them. Yet, they are ignorant of their excellence in the know-how if it is continuously done. Continuous practice is what unveils the pros and cons of dealings in actions, appraising the expertise of an individual. This, can not be achieved except with a disciplined mind. The mind that sleeps late and wakes early, plans when others party, sitting when not comfortable, walk when a nap can make a do. A mind that decides to shun distractions coming as merriment for a greater achievable feat. Doing the necessities when due, having the luxury at appropriate moment. The qualities of a disciplined mind. Often, a disciplined mind escapes from its comfort zone and do what's necessary, having a fixed gaze on the greater feat ahead. The only regimen to birthing consistency. 9 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo STEP 6 SELF-EVALUATION Linguist will argue that evaluation depicts examining or assessing a body, be it an organization, a company, a group, paperworks, amongst others. One last ingredient completing the delicacy. In my opinion, it is regarded as a measure to self-development. A graph plotting growth. The process enabling retrospect. Of the process is self-evaluation which can be regarded as self-check. At a point, this is required to be carried out to be wary of any growth on someone's embarkment of self-development. This is done by a pause and reflect action course. An individual will call for an inner peace and reflect on his quest thus far. Hence, deductions will be made for possible growths in personality. A great course that requires utmost sincerity with thyself. With this, an individual will understand for reasons he needs to do more and make adjustments where deemed necessary. 10 Rituals of Self-Development Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo THE AUTHOR Ridwan Oladimeji, Ojo popularly known at hodzoporium is an essayist, a poet, a speaker, an editor, critic, a graphic designer and a graduate of Microbiology, Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, Ogun state. He is the founder of Stitchers, a writing group. He is a prospective Corp member as of the moment of writing this piece. He is a life coach, motivator and a value adding advocate. An individual who believes in the exhibition of the great lying within every. He loves teaching and he is an emerging counselor. He is a member of reputable writing platforms; Islamic World of Talents (ISWOT), WriCon, The Pathfinders. His works have been widely read and distributed. His focal point has always been in triggering individuals to do more. For the equanimous mind can listen to the beats of heart and command pen’s hips to dance finely. Access to his works can be through his social media pages. Contacts: Email --Call/Whatsapp - Facebook/Instagram/Twitter - @hodzoporium 11