Petronlla Mbesa

How to Save a Broken Marriage Is your marriage in trouble? What can you do to save it? Fortunately, there is a lot that can be learned even by one partner who wants to know and increase chances of saving the marriage and make it thrive. There are signs that your marriage could be hitting a rock bottom. It’s good to always read and note such signs. Basically, there are two main sources of this drift in marriage: I. Money II. Sex All the arguments rotate around these two great monsters. At this point you find the wife is furious, and the husband is equally fed up with his wife. With bickering, quarreling and fighting love will be corroded, weaken and eventually ‘die’. To end the fighting, couples will grow apart, live like roommates, build separate lives, and even succumb to alternative lovers. Two important questions couples should always ask themselves are: ‘Is ending the marriage the only option?’ ‘Didn’t they love each other at some point of their lives?’ Majorly, the first and key step to saving a marriage is accepting that your marriage is breaking. “Let’s end our old marriage, keep each other, and build a totally new kind of marriage together!” The following 3Ls are crucial to saving a broken marriage; 1. Leadership The couple should take the initiative and decide to stop proving to be right to each other. Leadership is very important skill to a broken marriage. After listening, one has to take the initiative, courage and experience and say what to do. Marriages change mostly because of what people do rather than what they say or how well they listen. 2. Love Love includes appreciating each other, enjoying each other’s company, sharing personal thoughts, admitting mistakes, understanding and being patient with each other. Just illuminate your marriage. Love and positivity are crucial for saving a broken marriage. 3. Learn Marriage is a skill by itself. Just like skiing, it needs a lot of time and practice. Learn to talk in a considerate and open way with each other. Learn to understand and appreciate each other. Learn to say sorry and forgive each other. Learning will launch a new era in the relationship and ensure that the goodwill would last. In conclusion, if people put as much effort into their marriage as they will have to into a divorce, more people will be happily married.