Norah Amboko

Developing a satisfying sexual life: 5 ways to keep the sex fire burning in a relationship Mention the word sex and it evokes in people a kaleidoscope of emotions. There are those who react to the mentioning of the word sex with love, longing, tenderness and excitement. On the other hand, there are those who react to it with anxiety and disappointment. But then again, isn’t that what makes it such a unique thing in our lives. Sex can make or break a relationship. Of course, there are those who look at it as simply a physical activity, a way in which couples release sexual and energy perpetuate the world. Others look at it as something that bonds them together and an important springboard to the success of their relationship. Irrespective of which emotions you’ve had in the past, there is no denying that developing a satisfying sexual life can bring great happiness to your relationship. So how do you develop a satisfying sexual life with your partner and keep the fire burning in a relationship? We are going to look at 5 ways in which you can develop a satisfying sexual life and by extension happiness in a relationship. 1. Experiment on new things Don’t make sex a routine or an obligation that you need to fulfill. Endeavor to spice things up and try out new things that would make sex such a fun activity to engage in. Of course, for this to happen, it’s important that you and your partner have an open mind, be open to new ideas and be willing to go an extra mile to achieve sexual satisfaction. Tired of having sex missionary style and always on the same place? Why not try role playing where your partner can dress up as a dirty sexy soldier or a school girl who needs to be punished? Get rid of sexual ruts- always having sex on a predetermined time, in a certain way or at a certain time. All these are great recipe for boredom. Try new positions, new environments, and new costumes and see how satisfying your sexual life would be within no time. 2. Keep communicating with your partner Let’s face it! If you can’t openly communicate with your partner, then you can’t have a satisfying sexual life. Excellent communication skills are a great way to having a great sex life. Talk about everything from how you like to be touched to how dirty talk in the bedroom turns you on. The only way you can know what your partner wants in bed is by freely and openly talking to each other. Trust you me, you will be surprised to find out honest communication between the two of you keeps the fire burning in the bedroom. 3. Do not neglect your physical appearance or general health Who doesn’t like romping between the sheets with a sexy woman who smells nice and in great state of health? Work on your looks and serve to seduce your partner every now and then. Bad hygiene is a great mood killer in bed. Aspire to stay in shape, wear attractive and sexy clothing that would want to make your partner rip it off and get down with you. Apart from that, let’s not forget that your libido is dependent on your overall health. You can only develop a great sexual life if you are healthy, strong and full of energy. What are you waiting for? It’s about that time you hit the gym! 4. Develop trust between each other Whether you admit or not, a great and satisfying sexual life must be preceded by trust. You need to be comfortable enough with your partner to be able to enjoy a great sex life. The only way you can write down or act out your wildest sexual fantasies is if you trust your partner and feel comfortable trying out new things with them. Developing trust in your partner means that you need to talk more often, believe in their abilities, be a good listener, empathetic and be your partners strong support structure. Couples who trust each other tend to have a great sex life. Otherwise, why would your partner be willing to get down with you if you are always disrespectful, saying hurtful words or simply building a wall around yourself? 5. Be creative and playful Think of naughty notes that are suggestive left somewhere in the house by your partner for you to read. Does that picture turn you on? Why not then put it into action and keep the fire burning in the relationship? Make efforts to expand your sexual repertoire by varying scripts. Try out new things like having a hot warm bath together, engaging spontaneous quickies, trying out sex toys, sexy lingerie and having sex in weird places! By so doing, you not only develop a satisfying sexual life but also ensure that the bond between the two of you remains strong! How to seduce a woman: 5 Tips on how to win a woman who is out of your league Seducing a stunningly beautiful woman is something that intimidates many men. Here is a goddess, a woman whose appearance exudes confidence, whose smile is infectious and whose presence is overbearing in every aspect. On the other hand, you consider yourself a mere mortal, an ordinary bloke who can’t go toe to toe with the classy and elegant woman that is out of your league. So what if you aren’t a billionaire? So what if you are not blessed in the looks department? Are you going to waste away an opportunity to date a woman who is out of your league simply because you feel you don’t measure up? Of course not! It doesn’t matter whether you feel like they are beyond your grasp or are simply out of your league. Who doesn’t want the companionship and love of an elegant and stunning woman? We all do! After all, who wouldn’t want a trophy woman by their side? So how do you seduce and win a woman you deem out of your league? What are some of the tips that could make you land that woman you’ve always dreamt about? Below are a few tips to help you win the love of that extremely gorgeous woman out of your league Work on yourself confidence Ever known that extremely beautiful women have less competition compared to other ordinary looking women? Now you know! But how do you ensure that you win over these women. It all boils down to self-confidence. Now that is a term I like. Self-confidence can make you win over any woman you want. In fact, women are attracted to confident and powerful men. Don’t get me wrong here. When I say power, I don’t mean that you need to be some CEO of some blue chip company, a state governor or a tycoon. No. The confidence and power you exhibit while seducing a woman is what makes all the difference. Extremely gorgeous women feel that men who are intimidated by their looks are intimidated by the world in general. Self-confidence can score you great points by simply making a mature confident approach to an extremely beautiful woman and making them look ordinary. If you are anxious, stuttering and overly shy, you can never win a woman out of your league. In a nutshell, what am saying is that you need to be self-confident! Avoid cliché pick up lines. Simply talk to her Ever heard of making a good first impression? Extremely gorgeous women out of your league are turned off immediately with cliché pickup lines. They have probably heard them on many different occasions that they no longer make an impact on them. Avoid hitting on her with some random cliché pickup lines. On the other hand, talk to her. Strike a mature conversation while trying to find out something that the two of you might be having in common. Get to have a real conversation and focus on areas that pique her attention. You are probably going to score big if the woman you trying to woe enjoys the conversation you are having with her. Ask questions that require her to give an opinion. That way, you don’t come across simply as someone who is out to hit on her but one that can keep a great conversation going! Try not to intimidate her Did I just say intimidate her? You probably choked on your coffee. How do you intimidate an extremely gorgeous woman who is out of your league? Truth be told, even the prettiest of women are slightly intimidated by romantic approaches hence making them nervous. So how do you ensure you don’t botch it up? The secret lies in making her feel comfortable and being an attentive listener. Ask her something like “my sister is in a dilemma on the best colors to theme her wedding. Do you have any suggestions?” Listen attentively to the answers she gives while trying to come up with something else to keep the conversation going. With that, you both feel calm and therefore improve your chances of winning her. Do not be overly concerned with their looks. Focus on something else Yes you heard me right. Too much complements can give you low scores in your attempt to win a beautiful woman out of your league. It is commonly said that beautiful women are like second term presidents. They are always insecure and know that someone is going to replace them. While complementing their physique is welcome, try to focus on the virtues you find attractive in them. Complement her on days she feels less beautiful and you improve your chances of winning her. However, this does not mean that you should ignore her looks entirely. Simply ensure your comments are as honest as possible. Do not use your wallet but rather your brain Many men make the mistake of flaunting their wealth, the assets they own with the hope of winning over an extremely gorgeous woman out of their league. Don’t you think she has had opportunities in the past to date rich men with luxurious convertibles and mansions in upscale areas? Don’t make the seduction all about sex and money or making her feel as if she is a sex object. Rather, start up intelligent conversations that bring out the best in her. Try and help her grow. Is she a good painter? Why not help her become the best that she can? Does she like dancing? Why not sign up for dancing classes? The moment a woman realizes you share a lot in common and bring the best in her, the higher your chances of winning her! The art of seduction: tips to seduce a man and make him want you badly Seduction, it is said, is an art. Like many other forms of art, seduction can be learnt to a person’s great advantage. After all, who doesn’t love to be seduced? We all do. We love the feeling of being someone’s apple of eye and center of attention. In fact, the feeling is so great that some people simply smile at the thought of it. A walk down the memory lane of history and you won’t miss documented stories of great seductresses to ever walk the face of earth such as the sirens, eve and Cleopatra. These are legends and stories of beautiful women whose seduction techniques were so irresistible that many a man abandoned wives, virtue, honor and life simply to satisfy their innermost desires. They are stories laden with great instances of how seduction if mastered well can have a man want you badly. So how do you seduce a man and make him want you badly? What are some of the tips you can use to make a man want you badly? Work on your appearance and sex appeal Yes you heard me right, sex appeal! Men it is said are visual creatures. They respond to what they see more than their emotions. To catch the attention of a man and effectively seduce them, find out what it is that appeals to them. Do they like beautiful women clad in miniskirts, sexy dresses or low cut skirts? What is their favorite perfume on a woman that make them go crazy? Men love to be seen with a beautiful woman whose sex appeal is great and who makes them feel complete. The number one rule of seduction is that you should always look amazing. Wear your best dress that brings out the beauty in you and which makes you more appealing sexually. However, don’t dress scantily as it might send the wrong information to the man. In as much as you might be trying to win over a man, ensure you do not overdo by dressing in a manner that might work against you. Find out what his weak points are This might sound like exploitation but then again, its seduction! You want to use the very things that put his guard down. Find out what makes the man tick. Does he like a woman who is intelligent and knowledgeable of the current news? Does he like being seen with an extremely gorgeous woman? What about the things he dislikes in a woman? All these will give you the arsenal to package your seduction in a way he will find irresistible. If he hates nagging women, ensure that you mention how you don’t like nagging during seduction. Does he love well dressed women? Why not dress the part and have him going crazy for you. In a nutshell, knowing the buttons you need to press is essential in putting your seduction to plan. Be empathetic and understanding It’s true that most men lead stressful lives and are expected to perform from all quotas. This pressure to meet societal expectations can at times have a toll on them. Want to seduce him and make him want you badly? Why not be that good listener who listens when he is feeling down and low and needs someone to talk to? Why not be that woman who does not interject but rather offer unqualified support? Be empathetic, nod reassuringly when he talks of his pressures, comfort him and make him feel like you care and identify with his problems. This is one seduction technique that many men simply can’t resist. Give him a seductive look and always give him a light touch on his arm or shoulder when talking to him Simple, isn’t it? Getting a man to be all over you mean that you should do something that makes him feel like the only one that exists. Make an effort to gaze in his eyes as he speaks and thereafter playfully look away. Making the right eye contact or whispering in his ears as you talk goes a long way in making him want you badly. All this will definitely catch his attention and make you the very thing that he thinks of. In other words, how you succeed with your seduction is dependent on how distinct you are from other women in his life. To sum it up, making a man want you badly is not an assurance that they will love you deeply. You can be successful with making them lust at you or be infatuated with you but true, honest and genuine love is something else altogether. It is found from genuine openness, trust, and honest disclosure. It’s all up to you on what you want.