Nisbar Jaire Yaken

Family-centered, child-inclusive divorce More often than not, broken families have been one of the major reasons that could impact a child�s development as they grow old. We can only count on two results, negative and positive but never the neutral. For some, the separation of their parents might be one of the driving factors to be a better person and learn from their mistakes. But on the other side of the fence, the effect is too devastating and unbearable. We can never empathize in these situations unless you are a product of such circumstance; however there are professionals out there who specialize in these cases and could help both of the parties involved in the divorce process which especially includes the child. Incompetent handling of divorce is actually a form of child abuse, and that happens mostly when the concern only circulates on the legal matter while overlooking at the mental issue which is a total disaster. Most of the time, a separating couple is more concerned on severing their marital contracts than looking at the very core of why they ended up that way. The thing is, it is actually a combination of failures on both roles as a parent and as a spouse. The two aspects must be addressed in a divorce process and only a counselling firm is dedicated and competent to solve that. A counselling is done with a collaborative expertise between a divorce coach and child specialist. Let us look deeper into the important roles of each. What is a divorce/co-parent coach? A divorce coach is a skilled professional who has undergone an extensive training and research on how to efficiently handle a divorce with little to no legal damage. They have a vast timeline in experiencing different cases from various clients and can successfully guide both of the parties in a well-informed discussion regarding the risks, costs and benefits of the separation process. A coach is expected to listen to each concerned individuals and make strategies on how to deal with the impact of such decisions to their whole being, and also the aftermath of their choices on how would they deal to new relationships if there is. Aside from that, they would also make sure that each strategies they advise is being applied by the clients and monitor if they are doing well with their personal lives. Unlike legal representatives, the role of the coach does not end after the divorce, it is even more crucial in their part that each individual has accepted that everything is irrevocable and all the marital rights have been terminated. They would also inform each party that only the marital bond has been lifted, hence their role as a parent is permanent. As unfounded as it may seem, a reminder does no harm. What is a child specialist? A child specialist is an expert who has child psychology background. They help the child in coping up with all the negative emotions one can ever imagine after feeling that they have been left behind. It is normal for a child to experience changes in their behavior because of the lack of emotional support from both parents. However letting this negative impact grow can be dangerous in the long run. The specialist may step in and diagnose the areas where the child needs the most. They will let them express their anger, sadness and even recall their happiest memories with their parents through drawings and a little sharing. They will know how and when to communicate with the child because forcing a therapy would cause no good at all. The process might be really slow for some cases, but a therapist is dedicated enough to be patient in yielding the best outcomes. The divorce/co-parenting coach and child specialist as a team While the divorce coach works their way in settling each of the legal issues of the parents, the child specialist also do their best in guiding the child for the mean time. The counselling firm which houses both of the specialists does the wonder, they give the means of opportunity to collaborate with each other and brainstorm for the best approach in handling the case as whole. A lot of options may be given for the clients based from the overall assessment which makes it effective since only the approved and comfortable strategies will be applied that could benefit both parties. There is no law firm that could do that, however they are also important since the divorce can only be realized through legal papers. But the thing is, we must not take the humanistic factors in these cases, because as individuals it is also one of our social responsibilities to assess the emotional and mental impacts of legal conflicts, and we could also benefit by learning from such adversities and reflect to ourselves why these people need professional help in the first place.