Kate Findley

Headline: How to Always Make Your Loved One Happy It seems like some people are impossible to please…especially when it comes to romantic relationships! One moment you’re talking and laughing. The next minute your partner is glaring at you in stony silence or carping at you for some inconsequential thing…when you’ve done nothing at all! As these episodes become more frequent, you start to get on edge. Unease pervades your relationship. Desperate not to tip the boat, you go above and beyond to make your partner happy. You buy expensive gifts. You agree with your lover’s opinions, avoiding any triggers you know would instigate an argument. You nod silently as you’re berated for something you feel is only a minor offense. But none of these actions improve your relationship…in fact, they only make it worse! That’s because if you go out of your way to make your partner happy, metaphorically moving farther and farther to the edge of the bed to accommodate their needs, you’ll start to feel resentful. And your partner can sense this resentment, if only at a subconscious level. According to the law of attraction, energy attracts like energy. Lower vibrational energies like anger and resentment will elicit similar attitudes in your lover. Plus, when you act out of accordance with your desires, you are being inauthentic. You’re acting out of fear instead of love, and this itself triggers resentment in your partner. When a problem occurs in your relationship, it’s only natural to jump into panic mode. You like everything to run harmoniously, and kinks in your relationship’s armor can trickle into other areas of your life such as your health and career. So you rack your brain to come up with solutions. But there’s a better way. First, stop taking things so personally! The human mind is a turbulent landscape, constantly in a state of flux. Very often, your partner’s behavior has nothing to do with you. It could be a bad day at work…physical or emotional issues…deep-seated trauma from past relationships or childhood. With that in mind, you can release any desire to “fix” your relationship problems. Instead, surrender yourself to feelings of LOVE for your partner. “But of course I love my partner!” you protest. “That’s why I’m working so hard to stay together!” All too often, though, love gets tangled up with negative emotions such as anger and neediness. Trying extra hard to please your partner may just be fear masquerading as love— fear of abandonment, fear of conflict, fear of having failed at maintaining your relationship. Unconditional love does not depend on external factors such as your lover’s acceptance and approval. It simply is. It encompasses ALL facets of that person, even the ones that are difficult to deal with. So the next time your partner gets angry because the dishes aren’t done or the snow isn’t shoveled, don’t despair. Instead, apply LOVE to the problem—every bit of it. This process should not be forced. After all, when we strain or overexert ourselves, we rarely succeed in our goals. Just allow LOVE to gently wash over the problem, untangling the knots. With the Release Technique, learn to cleanse yourself of any negative emotions surrounding your relationship and replace them with pure, unadulterated love. Want to go deeper? Try The Relationships Course, which will help you transform even the most problematic relationships into euphoric ones, feeling more connected and in-tune than ever before. As user A.C. reports, “This is the easiest, most comprehensive, most effective method I have ever learned… releasing! Since beginning the course, I have found: My 26 year marriage is BETTER THAN EVER. Almost all struggle and power plays have simply dissipated into thin air, and my husband is now more present and attentive than ever. He even asked me for a Valentine’s Date! Hasn’t happened in forever.” You can apply this technique to any issue you are facing, not just those associated with romantic relationships. Struggling to move up in your career? LOVE is the answer. Suffering from an unexplained medical condition? LOVE might be the key. It’s time to release all the blockages in your life so you can start living a joy-filled existence fueled by the force of LOVE.