Voice Night Out: Would you date your Friends' Ex
Voice Night Out Episode: Would you date your Friend’s Ex
The episode aired last May 22, 2020 featuring another batch of The Voice Acting Project members in their first guesting. Kristoff Contreras, Carlo Pancho Alfonso, Michelle “The Bubbly Voice” Jordan, Gian Carlo Urbano, and Katherine Red Mataganas, and the usual suspect Richard “TheRickMatthews” Abalos completed the late night show guest line-up.
The Bro Code
The "bros before hoes" expression was often valued as an epitome of male friendship. It had been around since 2001 as slang which was then popularized by Barney Stinson from How I Met Your Mother, an American sitcom. While the term was not intended to be offensive, it was ,however, regarded as an insult towards cheating or crossing the line. In this instance, the bro code can be challenged especially if love is involved, as to why it may complicate things once a friend dates an ex-girlfriend or boyfriend.
Risk and Stakes
Dating has so many contexts. It can range from being casual to a serious relationship. One can say that the level of friendship matters before considering getting involved with someone’s past lover. Past may be the past, but there is always an existing risk since there would be potential awkwardness once both exes meet again.
How does one avoid the awkwardness? Should a person ask his friend’s permission first?
While it is not as easy as it sounds, most of the guests had an agreement that once you love someone, it shouldn’t matter. Just because someone is a friend's ex, it doesn't mean the friend can state their claim for that person as if branding their ex as a piece of property. If your friend lets someone go, the ex has the freedom to be with other people regardless of the 3-month rule. That is because the 3-month rule is not real. It may give people time and space to think and to process moving on, but it shouldn’t exist as a pressure for someone to move on within 3 months nor guilt trip someone who has already moved on. There is no specific time or place when love is set. It is no difference when someone has other lovers who weren’t your friend before. Even so, a guest pointed out that for him, it is a different matter though if your friend and his ex were fiancés. There is a reason why it didn't work; it could be about a commitment issue. So if you are ready for the risk and the comparison, go for it, for as long as you don't harm anyone, that should not be an issue.
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