Jeneferlyn Yap

Go for it! There are times when we feel as if nothing is going right and everything else fails. For some time, we have come to a situation when we feel that we made the wrong decisions. Having these realities slapped in front of our face, we become more indifferent, in denial and at times, bitter about the situation. Such things become reflected in our everyday life. At some point, the unidentified, mixed and poisonous feelings further dampen ones days and make it difficult to go on with things that matter more. But what can we do with it? What are the best ways possible that we can make up for all of it? Coming from someone who had experienced the same things for a pretty long time now, I have decided to help others out there, whom just like me, are doing their all and working their eyebrows off just to freakin’ move on with life. 1. Generate an idea or a sort of “life roadmap” that you want to take in the future. Every one of us have a certain idea in mind of the things, events and situations we want to happen in our lives. We usually refer to as “ambitions”, “dreams” or “ideals”. Just like any other endeavor, it is always best to plan ahead and lay out the things you want to achieve in your life and the strategies you want to use to achieve the same. Determining what you want to do and who want to be is a very difficult task. However, recognizing your strengths and weaknesses is a very useful tool to guide you with this part. 2. Try to reflect. Acknowledge what is happening to your life at the moment. Try to have a comprehensive picture of the existing realities. After which, try to probe into your inner self and ask, “Is this the reality I had planned to happen in my life?”, “Is it all worth it?”, “Am I happy?”. If you had answered NO to all of your questions, then maybe you need to take a step back for a moment. 3. Find solutions. If you think you can still do more and you do not deserve the situation you are in now, it is best to do something about it. Most people often get depressed and unmotivated to act. But this should not be the situation. Always think that you can do better than what you used to be. It may apply to your career, family, health or personal affairs. Keep in mind that there are plenty of solutions and you can always find one that is applicable to you. Such solutions should have an end in view of providing you with better options and opportunities. You can always expect that there are always good things out there that are meant for you. 4.  Don’t be afraid to take risks. Most of the time, our success is hindered by our inability to focus on the bright side as well as our tendency to look only on things that we are afraid that may happen to us. You will never know unless you try. You will never know what you want, if you haven’t run down through all of your choices. It always boils down to the kind of perspective you are having right now. Truly, there will always have some difficulties. And it is inevitable that we will be given these struggles throughout our life. But this thing you should remember,  you should always surround yourself with people whom you  can find support and people who love and understand you all the way.