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The Culture Challenge
Building a company culture is hard.
Scott Johnson
CEO & Founder, Motivosity, Inc.
Just the thought of starting can be overwhelming, often creating more
questions than answers. There are tons of books, podcasts, videos, blogs
and other free advice from novice social-media influencers. With all the
clutter out there, it can be hard to wrap your head around the strategies,
tactics, and supposed “best practices.”
We appreciate your frustration. That’s why we decided to cut through
the noise for you and go straight to the leading culture and organizational
experts -- award winners, best selling authors, and widely respected
thought leaders. This ebook is filled with practical advice from the best
minds out there. Advice that we wish we had when we first began designing
and implementing our culture.
So read on. What you’ll find are some amazing hacks to create and scale
a culture of motivated employees, where you’ll see reduced turnover,
improved productivity, and a place that your employees love. Roll up your
sleeves and let’s get started.
WHITNEY JOHNSON
Executive Coach and Consultant
WLJ Advisors, LLC
PATRICK LENCIONI
President
The Table Group
Table of
Contents
JILL CHRISTENSEN
Employee Engagement Expert and Author
Jill Christensen International, LLC
GREG HAWKES
Corporate Culture Specialist
Hawkes Agency
ADRIAN GOSTICK
Co-founder
The Culture Works
CHESTER ELTON
Co-founder
The Culture Works
JARED OLSEN
Product Evangelist and HR Consultant
Motivosity, Inc.
Culture Hacks
If you’ve ever seen the TV show Parks and Recreation,
you know that Leslie Knope is one of the most engaged
employees and managers in the history of television.
For those uninitiated, here’s a rundown of a typical Leslie
Knope project: Leslie is given an assignment by Ron, her
stoic department director and Libertarian government
official who is actively trying to stop the government from
spending money. Undaunted, Leslie recruits others in the
office to accomplish the task anyway.
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Whitney Johnson is an
expert on disruptive
innovation and personal
disruption. She is the author of
Disrupt Yourself and Build an “A”
Team. In 2019, she was ranked #3
on Top 30 Organizational Culture
Professionals. Whitney is also
the host of the weekly Disrupt
Yourself Podcast. You can follow
her on twitter:
@johnsonwhitney
With the enthusiasm and energy of an entire high school
cheer squad at Homecoming, Leslie outlines her plans for
the project and secures by-in from her coworkers. She is adept at appealing to the parts of the
project that are attractive to them—Andy, the opportunity to help people and have fun; Tom,
flashy presentations and local prestige; and for Jerry/Gary/Larry (one person, don’t ask), the
satisfaction of mundane tasks that get him home right at 5pm.
As plans proceed and obstacles are faced, Leslie is quick to dole out compliments, celebrate every
victory (no matter how small), and even makes a scrapbook to commemorate the project. Her
enthusiasm is contagious. While not everyone is as thrilled with their government job as Leslie is,
there is no doubt that they would do anything to help her when she needs them.
Scrapbooking may not be your cup of tea, but we can—and should—show our team how much
we appreciate their contributions daily. Think of appreciation as a “culture hack” to getting an
environment your employees will thrive in.
But one size does not fit all; just as every employee is different, so are their needs for
recognition. Everyone, from the newest employee to the most senior manager, is on a learning
curve in your company. What they need in recognition when they are new is not what they require
when they’ve been around the block a few times.
When you have a fresh-faced Andy Dwyer who is enthusiastic but inexperienced it is important to
give praise, encouragement, and permission to do what he is being asked to accomplish. Employees
on this low-end of the learning curve may sometimes feel overwhelmed with all of the new
information they are taking in, but with proper encouragement and validation they will eventually
find their way to the sweet spot.
The sweet spot is where experience, confidence, and enthusiasm come together to give the
employee satisfaction in their work. They know what they should do, how they should do it, and
what is expected. Accomplishing tasks is easier, but not so easy that things are on autopilot. For
employees in this phase of the learning curve it is vitally important that they receive thanks for
the work they are doing. As they feel their work is appreciated, they remain connected to the
organization and continue to push for new growth.
Eventually, an employee will advance from the sweet spot to mastery (the high end of the learning
curve). Skills are on autopilot; the challenge is gone. These employees can be valuable mentors and
keepers of institutional knowledge, but it is easy for them to become disengaged from the rest of
the team. When you praise them (and please, do praise them), be sure to thank them for helping
those who are still learning. Acknowledge their role in your teams’ success. When they are ready
to spread their wings to form their own premiere multi-media entertainment conglomerate, let
them soar, and be sure to remind them of their strengths as you wish them well.
If you want to be the Leslie Knope of your office, aka a supervisor that employees will gladly help
in times of need, you need to show them the recognition that they are craving in the way best
suited to their position on the learning curve.
Or make a scrapbook for every project. Your choice.
Take-aways
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Engaged employees are innovative, highly motivated, and drive results
Engaged employees empower their peers to be engaged
Show your team how much you appreciate them everyday
Customize the way you show appreciation. Employees need different forms of recognition
based on how long they’ve been with the company
Overcome Job Misery
When I was in high school, my mother gave me a copy of
the book “What Color Is Your Parachute” so that I could start
thinking about what kind of career would be best for me
one day. About seven years later, I finally read that book
and benefited from it immensely. In addition to helping me
find a job that suited my talents, it provoked my interest in
career counseling, a hobby that I dabble in today. Helping
people discover passion in their work lives gives me great
satisfaction.
P
atrick Lencioni is the author
of ten business books
including his latest release, The
Advantage: Why Organizational
Health Trumps Everything Else in
Business, and the national best
seller, The Five Dysfunctions of a
Team. He is founder and president
of The Table Group, a management
consulting firm focused on
organizational health.
www.tablegroup.com
However, in the past few years I’ve come to realize that the
pursuit of the right career may be a little over-rated. Don’t
get me wrong, I continue to enjoy, and greatly value, helping
people find careers that allow them to use their natural talents. It’s just that we sometimes mislead
ourselves into thinking that this alone is enough to make us satisfied in our work. Let me explain.
BAD JOB VS. MISERABLE JOB
It isn’t uncommon to hear someone say that so-and-so has a good job. If you ask someone what a
good job is, you’ll get a variety of answers depending on the person.
For some, a good job is about being paid well, for others it’s about the prestige of working for a
well-known company, and for others still it might be about having the freedom to avoid sitting
behind a desk all day in an office.
We also hear people say that so-and-so has a bad job, which can mean that they are underpaid,
have to do manual labor, or sit in an office without ventilation or natural light. It is almost entirely
subjective.
What is not subjective is the definition of a miserable job, because it’s largely the same whether
you are an executive, waiter, teacher or professional football player. People who are miserable in
their jobs dread going to work and come home frustrated, defeated and weary.
MISERY’S IMPACT
The cost of job misery is very real, both for individuals who are miserable and for the families and
friends of the people who must live with them. Scores of people suffer everyday as they trudge off
from their families and friends to jobs that make them more cynical, unhappy and frustrated than
they were when they left.
Over time, this dull pain can erode the self-confidence and passion of even the strongest people,
which in turn affects their spouses, children and friends in subtle but profound ways.
Organizations are not immune to the effects of misery either. Some studies show as high as 77%
of workers are dissatisfied with their work, and that the primary driver of job dissatisfaction is not
pay or benefits, but rather the relationship that an employee has with his or her supervisor.
Such widespread dissatisfaction kills morale and productivity within companies, and drives
up the cost of recruiting, hiring and retraining new employees, all of which takes a huge, if not
easily measured, toll on the bottom line. Gallup estimates that the annual cost to the American
economy due to lost productivity is somewhere in the vicinity of $350 billion.
THE THREE CAUSES
The causes of job misery, are as simple as they are common, and are the subject of my most recent
book, The Truth About Employee Engagement. What I’d like to do here is explore just one of those
causes, which is the most obvious and perhaps most important of the three. I call it anonymity.
ANONYMITY
No employee, regardless of how much money he makes or how much she loves the nature of the
work she does, can be fulfilled without a manager who knows and cares about them as a unique
individual.
Yes, that seems ridiculously obvious, which makes the pervasiveness of anonymity so puzzling.
Ask most employees whether their managers really understand them, whether they are genuinely
interested in them as human beings, and most will say ‘no.’ Ask their managers the same question,
‘why don’t you get to know and understand your employees more?,’ and assuming that they’ll
admit the problem, here are some of the likely reasons:
1. Political correctness: during interviews, managers are instructed by legislators and lawyers
to avoid any personal questions that might be construed as discriminatory and/ or irrelevant
to the job. Unfortunately, when an employee actually starts working for them, many of
those managers continue to deal with them at an arm’s length, rather than treating them as a
human being, one with a family and a history and aspirations and hobbies.
2. Amnesia: so many managers seem to forget what it was like when they were more junior
employees. They don’t remember the impact that a manager can have on an employee’s
sense of self-esteem, enthusiasm and job fulfillment just by taking an interest in someone’s
life outside of work.
3. Fear of the “Touchy-Feely”: some managers downplay the impact of the human element
on the productivity and fulfillment of their employees, often because they are embarrassed.
This can stem from their discomfort with being emotionally open with people, from their
fear of seeming disingenuous, or from the painful realization that they haven’t generally
taken an interest in the employees who work for them.
4. Busy-ness: some managers don’t believe they have the time to take an interest in their
people. They see themselves as individual contributors who happen to have direct reports.
For them, any time taken away from “real work” is a waste and a threat to making progress.
Obviously, they don’t have a sense of the impact that a manager can have on an employee’s
productivity and morale. Of course, no excuse is a good one for a manager to avoid treating
employees like the three-dimensional human beings that they are- mothers, fathers, sisters,
brothers, grandparents and neighbors, all of whom have a need to be known by the person
who oversees their work.
OVERCOMING ANONYMITY
Managers who struggle with demonstrating a real interest in their employees need to do one
or both of the following. First, they have to overcome their fear of being politically incorrect.
Yes, our current legal climate makes it necessary for managers to be careful about the kinds of
personal interview questions they ask. But that doesn’t mean they should continue in that same
vein after an employees comes on board.
Of course, that doesn’t mean all personal topics are suddenly fair game. It just means that
managers should act like human beings, and not the automatons that our legal system requires
them to be during the interview process.
Second, managers need to overcome their fear of coming across as insincere. That’s not to say that
they need to get comfortable being insincere. They just need to realize that it is okay if employees
initially suspect that they are being manipulative. They have to have the courage and wisdom to
realize that the truth about their intentions will eventually become clear after they demonstrate
consistent, genuine interest in their employees as people.
THE OTHER CAUSES
Addressing anonymity is the first of the three areas that managers need to tackle. To transform
our ailing workforce, there is more work to be done, in the areas of employee irrelevance and
something I call ‘immeasurement’.
However, more than anything, managers need to understand that job misery at work is costly,
unnecessary, and treatable. It is my sincerest hope that the advice and perspective in my book
changes the way managers approach their jobs so that employees find true fulfillment in theirs.
Take-aways
• 77% of workers are dissatisfied with their work
• The primary driver of job dissatisfaction is the relationship that an employee has with his or
her supervisor
• Dissatisfaction kills morale, productivity, and drives up the cost of recruiting, hiring and
re-training new employees
• Lost productivity costs the U.S. economy $350 billion every year
• No employee can be fulfilled without a manager who knows and cares about them as a
unique individual
Driving Values Home
According to Gallup, only 27 percent of employees believe in
their company’s values. Needless to say, I was alarmed when
I read this statistic since values describe an organization’s
culture, which is defined as “how we do things here.” Values
describe who you are, what you believe in, what you hold
to be dear and true, and the attributes that everyone
should “experience” when they interact with anyone in your
organization. Examples of values include Accountability,
Innovation, Results-Oriented, Fun, Continuous
Improvement, and Bureaucracy-Free.
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ill Christensen is a former
Fortune 500 executive, who
led Global Internal
Communications at Avaya and
Western Union. Her proven
approach to increase engagement
has allowed her to partner with
leaders around the world to
improve productivity, retention,
customer satisfaction, and
revenue growth by re-engaging
employees. You can learn more
about Jill here:
When considering the fact that two-thirds of employees do
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not believe in their company’s values (i.e. culture), it’s not
surprising then that two-thirds of U.S. workers say that they
are disengaged. This is not a coincidence, rather a correlation, as great cultures drive higher levels
of employee engagement.
In my opinion, the main reason employees do not believe in their company’s values is because
the values do not accurately reflect the organization’s culture. For instance, more than a decade
ago I worked for a company that had Accountability as one of its six values. However, virtually no
one was held accountable in that organization and worse, favoritism and unfairness ruled the day.
Everyone who worked there knew this was the case and hence, it was reflected in our pathetically
low employee engagement score.
While it’s okay for an organization’s values to be aspirational (yet achievable), it’s not okay for
an organization’s values to be a flat-out lie. Why? Because everyone who interacts with your
organization will discover it, which will prove detrimental to what people think about your
organization, and your ability to attract and retain great talent. It’s no secret that now more than
ever, former and current employees are more than happy to go to the Glassdoor website and let
the world know about your organization’s achievements and strengths, lies and weaknesses. If
you are not honest about who you are, you will be found out and the consequences could be great.
My Culture Hack? Conduct a Values Audit. In the audit, conduct a survey and face-to-face focus
groups to ask employees if they believe your values truly reflect the organization and “how we do
things here.” If the outcome is poor, start over and ask employees for their help creating a short
list of positive, inspirational values – five to seven - that describe who you are, what you believe in,
and the attributes that people will “experience” when they interact with the organization.
By engaging employees in the process of drafting your values, you will increase engagement
because every person in this world wants to have a voice at work and know their voice is being
heard. In addition, you will get an accurate picture of your culture – one that employees can
believe in, buy into, and role model.
However, you are not done there. Once you have a set of values that accurately reflects who you
are, you have to bring your values to life. The worse thing you could do is allow your values to be
nothing more than a plaque on the wall or a list on your website. How do you make your values
come to life?
• Hire for a values match.
• Accountability. In the performance management process, rate people on their ability to
meet their goals and their ability to live your values – 50/50.
• Reference your values in every company communication.
• Create a recognition program that enables employees to reward people who live the
values/exhibit behaviors aligned with the values.
Building an amazing culture is not difficult. It starts with having a short list of values that honestly
reflects who you are and then bringing them to life. It ends with everyone living the values and
holding them in the highest esteem. Priceless.
Take-aways
• Only 27% of employees believe in their company’s values
• The main reason employees do not believe in their company’s values is because the values do
not accurately reflect the organization’s culture
• Organizational values should be aspirational yet achievable, and a true reflection
of the company
• Conduct a value audit to see if employees believe in your core values
• Create a recognition program that enables employees to reward people who live the values/
exhibit behaviors aligned with the values
Four Pillars of Healthy Culture
One of the great duplicities about healthy culture in
organizations is that IF it doesn’t come from the top, it’s
not sustainable. Company-wide, there is a lot of truth to
that. Yet, as a capable professional, you and I have the
opportunity to shape our immediate environment within
our department, floor or location, if we so determine.
The majority of companies aren’t intentional about
culture. When left on its own, like all living things, it will
exist somewhere between neutral and toxic. Instead of
blaming upper management or C-Suite leaders, why don’t
we initiate an effort in our corner of the work world? I’ve
heard all the excuses…
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I’m not in charge.
I don’t have any authority.
I don’t have a budget.
It doesn’t matter anyhow.
I can’t do anything about it.
Everyone is not a leader. Being thoughtful about crafting a healthy environment for us and
our colleagues takes a significant amount of intentionality, reserved for those who aspire to
leadership. If we’re convinced by the above justified excuses, the following will not resonate.
However, if you intend to exert yourself, despite your current reality, here are Four Pillars you can
incorporate, fostering a healthy culture in your immediate environment.
HONOR
Typically considered an act reserved for only a certain few who have attained rare-air status:
Being at a company a long time, achieving the impossible, consistently surpassing goals and so
forth. Yet giving honor is an available weekly action.
How have you felt when you’ve been honored? Wouldn’t YOU like to feel that way every week?
Honor is a combination of three elements:
1. Strategic Appreciation
2. Valuing Contribution
3. Valuing the Person
When we commit to offer an observation weekly using one of those three, or a combination of
them, we gift honor to our colleagues. This nurtures a healthy culture!
EXCELLENCE
Most people mistakenly identify stewardship as excellence. Stewardship is “doing the best I
can, with what I have.” When resources are limited, sometimes this is all we can do. Excellence,
however, is a two-fold proposition. It’s an extraordinarily high-standard we set which then an
outside voice affirms or denies its quality. From that data, we adjust, adapt or accelerate.
Whether client facing or buried deep in cube land, you and I can live by standards that propel
us towards excellence consistently. Excellence is on the other side of obstacles; therefore,
determination and accountability are always necessary to sustain it.
Incorporating peer-to-peer accountability amongst your team is a transformational option. Seize it!
This too is something we can determine and control, fostering a healthy culture.
IDENTITY
In days gone by, individuals found their identity IN their work. In our ever-evolving society, the
aspiration to bring our whole selves TO work is a priority. Whether supervisor, subordinate
or colleague YOU can contribute to the people on your team feeling engaged. Knowing what
motivates co-workers requires sincere curiosity with a dash of interest.
As we discover their strengths, motivations, dreams and goals, we can partner with them to spend
as much time as possible in those areas. When applied across a team, department or floor, the
enhanced camaraderie evolves into increased productivity and greater fulfillment in the work.
Of course, everyone has their job to do, which will entail aspects we don’t love. In healthy cultures
though, we work alongside our colleagues to diminish weaknesses and magnify strengths!
SIGNIFICANCE
Simon Sinek made famous “Start with Why”. But long before that, we humans have been aspiring
to make a lasting impression, leave a legacy and change the world.
Why does what you do matter? Why does what your teammates do matter? I don’t know the
specific answer for you, but if dollars are being exchanged for your skills and service, be assured it
does matter!
When we possess that sense of mission and purpose around our efforts, it compels us to care,
make sacrifices and consider how to keep increasing value. The very essence of a healthy culture.
You and I initiating action to incorporate these four pillars is a hearty undertaking. It’s worth it
because we spend so much time at work! All four of them require us to be relationally smart, while
engaging our co-workers at a slightly deeper level. That very activity will unlock a healthy culture.
If you’re blaming supervisors or management for the culture, why not take on the task of making
your immediate work-world a much more enjoyable, productive place?
For more info or help, connect with Greg at www.HawksAgency.com or on LinkedIn at www.
LinkedIn.com/in/ghawks. He’s on twitter, Instagram and facebook too, of course.
Take-aways
• The majority of companies aren’t intentional about their culture
• Culture isn’t the C-suites responsibility - it’s everyones
• The four pillars to create a healthy culture:
− Honor
− Excellence
− Identity
− Significance
HR Hack: Job Sculpting
HR professionals have been trying to find ways to make
work more rewarding from time immemorial. As part of
that process, many tell us it’s just common sense to sit
down with each of their people regularly and work on
career development. After all, it’s one of the few things we
can control. It usually takes years to affect an employee’s
compensation in a meaningful way, and we can’t give out
better perks or benefits if an employee is rocking it (I’m
going to give you a better dental plan, Johnson; I’ve seen your
kids and they’re a mess). But career development: That we
can help with.
A
Adrian Gostick and Chester
Elton are authors of the
New York Times, Wall Street
Journal, and USA Today bestsellers
The Carrot Principle and All in.
They are founding partners of
The Culture Works. They train
and consult on leadership issues
with organizations such as AT&T,
Procter & Gamble, and American
Express. Learn more about their
work here .
www.thecultureworks.com
We call this practice job sculpting. It’s the art of forging a
customized career path to help employees do a little more of what they find motivating and little
less of what frustrates them—increasing your chances of retaining and engaging talented people.
While sculpting sometimes might involve substantial changes in responsibilities, and might even
eventually mean facilitating a team member’s move to a new role in another team; we’ve found
those cases are rare. Most often relatively small changes in responsibilities or work situations
create huge boons in productivity and loyalty.
Wisdom on this comes from James Waldroop, who was director of the MBA Career Development
Program at Harvard Business School for 19 years, and Timothy Butler, who is the current director.
They have found that Harvard MBAs are more likely to stay and stay committed in a job if the
work matches more of their deeply embedded “life interests.”
Now, these are not hobbies or personal interests, but their work passions. “Deeply embedded life
interests do not determine what people are good at—they drive what kinds of activities make
them happy. At work, that happiness keeps people engaged, and it keeps them from quitting,”
they said.
These two Ph.Ds argue that organizations can gain a competitive advantage through this process.
For instance, Waldroop and Butler have noticed that firms recruiting their students have a
significant advantage over competitors when they emphasize a commitment to helping their
professionals think about and manage their careers.
But then, of course, HR must help their organizations deliver on the promise. How?
That takes a little persistence and a touch of resourcefulness. For instance, a salesperson
with a passion for quantitative analysis might be given a stretch assignment to work with
market research, while still selling. An engineer who yearns to be more creative might help the
communication team design new sales support materials or user manuals—again, while retaining
her primary role in engineering.
John Lowery, CEO of the 300 person Michigan firm Applied Imaging, says this process means
paying attention to the little things you hear from your people: “We have a technical specialist who
loves photography, so we’ve asked him to take pictures at our corporate events. He brings every
bit of equipment imaginable and is so engaged. We have a woman on our front desk who is an
English major. We asked if she would mind proofing our company brochures before we go to print.
She said: ‘I’d love to do that.’ She’s given us great feedback, and does she ever feel valued!”
Harvard’s Waldroop and Butler cite the example of Carolyn, a star analyst they met at a
leading Wall Street firm, who was talented at designing sophisticated quantitative approaches.
Executives tried to ensure Carolyn’s loyalty by giving her above-average raises and bonuses, but
unbeknownst to them, she was thinking of leaving. She wanted to have more of an impact on
decision making and group direction—a say in who the group hired, how the team was structured,
and how they could interact better with other areas of the company.
The story does have a happy ending. HR intervened and sat Carolyn and her boss down and
arrived at a player-coach role for her as coordinator of research. She continued to work as an
analyst, but also assumed a leadership role on a couple of cross-functional teams. They got her
involved in hiring and promotion decisions, and she sat in when the executive team brainstormed
on strategic direction. A year later, the research group had never been more productive, and
Carolyn was happy and engaged.
It must be said that this kind of tailoring approach involves people doing things that you actually
need done, not just those they would like to do more of. In some cases, we must accept that the
person might not be good at what they love to do. The activity must be not only motivating but
also a strength for the person, or something they can realistically get better at with time and
effort. Work is not simply about people pursuing passions. If it were, we would have a surfeit of
professional chocolate tasters and basketball players.
So, how can HR help tailor jobs to optimize a bit more of their people’s enthusiasm and talents, all
within the boundaries of what’s best for the organization and its performance mandates?
Dan Helfrich, Chairman and CEO of Deloitte Consulting, asks his people: “What do you want to
get better at?” to help determine their core motivators. “I want to know about a challenge they feel
ready to take on but haven’t been given the chance to do in another team. Then as the time goes
along, wow, the alignment that comes from giving them small tasks or opportunities that align with
what they shared with you.”
Helfrich gave us the following example: One of his team members was the hub of coordination for
multiple work streams. She knew the status of everything that was going on in the team. “But,”
he said, “she was starting to feel like a reporting mechanism; she wasn’t being given a chance to
think creatively or strategically.” Helfrich assigned the woman to take the lead on a new project,
allowing her to work with a blank white board and lead the creative process. “That has unlocked
career growth that wouldn’t have happened otherwise,” he added.
For employees, the benefit of the job sculpting process is obvious. For the organization, the
payback can be powerful as well, as sculpting can help diagnose how each team member’s specific
tasks are (or are not) aligned with his or her motivations, and can uncover subtle changes that can
lead to increases in team morale, engagement, and results.
Take-aways
• Job sculpting — forging a customized career path to help employees do more of what they find
motivating and little less of what frustrates them
• Increases your chances of retaining and engaging talented people
• Employees are more likely to stay with and stay committed in a job if their work matches more
closely to their deeply embedded “life interests”
• Ask employees “what are you interested in getting better at?” to help determine their core
motivators
The Culture Divorce
It’s time we start blurring the lines in who we are at home
and who we are at work. I’ve talked to far too many people
who say, “You’ve never seen that side of me, because I don’t
act that way at work.” I even remember a time where I
asked a colleague, how their weekend was and they said,
“It was okay, I got engaged.” “Engaged!?” I blurted. “Tell me
all about it!” We had a great conversation about all of the
details, the ring, who helped pulled it off, and what made it
so spectacular. What surprised me, however, was the fact
that this employee almost didn’t say anything, and wouldn’t
have, had I not asked.
J
ared Olsen is an entrepreneur,
workplace culture enthusiast,
and Nacho Libre lover. He is on
the board member at Disrupt SLC
and was named by Utah Business
Magazine as the first ever HR
Disruptor of the Year. Jared’s
thought leadership has been
published by Fox Business, Silicon
Slopes, Utah Business Magazine,
KSL, and the Deseret News.
The research shows that people are twice as likely to look for a new job around a key milestone
moment. This includes birthdays, work anniversaries, graduating college, birth of a child, and
getting married as a few examples. We are so much more self aware in those moments if what our
employment is, aligns with what our life goals and ambitions are. When you have a new baby in
your arms, it is easy to self reflect and say, “Is what I’m doing at work going to align with how I take
care of this newborn?” The same is true for each life milestone.
Being vulnerable at work can be hard. We worry that if we talk about how the stress of the job,
work hours, or disfunction on our team, will make our leaders say, “Obviously this employee is no
longer a good fit for our team and company.” We syke ourselves out and say, “The less information
I share about how I truly feel, the better.”
The number one cited reason for turnover is the relationship with your manager. When managers
start to get to know who you the person is, and not the employee, you can find common ground,
real meaningful conversations, and improved performance.
One example that demonstrates this is Adams story.
When I was the Chief People Officer at a firm, I had a manager come to me and say, “Adam needs
to go on a performance improvement plan for attendance.” I asked more details, we pulled the
reports and confirmed he was consistently late for work. I asked how conversations had gone
about attendance and the manager said, “Not great, he just sits there like he is in trouble and
doesn’t say much.”
I then encouraged Adams manager to sit down with Adam and ask some questions that would
encourage Adam to be vulnerable. Long story short, Adam was the youngest of 7 children, and
a bit of a “whoops” baby. When he was born, his father was in a severe car accident, which made
him highly medicated for nearly all of Adam’s life. The only thing in life that Adam wanted was
his father’s approval. Since he felt he never had it, that projected to other authority figures. This
included older adults, religious leaders, and anyone in management. He said he best responded to
those who didn’t see his flaws, but the positive things he accomplishes.
By asking these probing questions, we learned that if we could validate Adam, show him an
increase of love first, and give a big stamp of approval on what he was doing well, he would be
ready to take feedback. We then were able to talk through attendance issues and saw immediate
improvement. Adam moved from being on a performance improvement plan to being a top
performer and a year later was promoted to a new role.
What changed? His manager asked probing questions about who Adam was, what made him tick,
and what his needs were. Having this conversation once was not enough. Adam and all of us need
continuous feedback and open, honest communication that advance the conversation about our
job performance, alignment with company values, and career goals.
Next time you have a 1:1 with a member of your team, don’t focus on if they “exceed
expectations,” but have a genuine conversation from one human to another. Find out their
current state in life, goals, desires, hopes, and then correlate that conversation with how it aligns
to the work they do for you each day. If you can get to vulnerability with your employees, you’ll
start looking forward to 1:1 feedback instead of dreading having a performance management
conversation.
Also, Adam is getting married in December 2020, and his Dad will be there… I’m confident with a
big smile, being unbelievably proud of what his son is doing.
Take-aways
• People are 2x more likely to look for a new job around a key milestone moment such as
graduating college
• If Managers don’t make a conscious effort to get to know their employees, they risk seeing an
increase in turnover and decrease in productivity
• The most common reason employees give for quitting a job is having a poor relationship with
their manager
• Companies with healthy employee-to-manager relationships see improved performance and
engagement
• Get to know your employees by asking them questions that give the opportunity for
employees to share vulnerability giving you insights into what you can do as a manager
About Motivosity
Motivosity is the company intent on helping people be happier at work.
Motivosity provides a best-in-class employee recognition and feedback software
platform used by companies like DuPont, Instructure, Hitachi Chemical, Western
Governors University, Cotopaxi, and others to improve employee engagement
and build company culture. Motivosity customers experience a 90%+ user
engagement rate. Our software drives amazing results by making visible all the
great work your team members are doing, connecting employees to each other,
facilitating consistent communication between managers and employees, and
providing actionable insights for company leadership to make more informed
business decisions.