Janak Chauhan

How to be happy in life Personal development is the process or method for people to assess their aim in life and change or set goals to be happy in life. This is not a one-time or short process.It is in-fact a lifelong process that everyone needs to think about as some stage in their life. Personal development is much more than just about how to be happy in life; it is also about reassessing one’s skills and qualities and also about setting goals to maximize one’s potential. Hence in order to be happy in life it is necessary be aware of the theory of personal development. The theory of Personal Development Personal development is a stepwise process and can be viewed as a hierarchy of needs being met. The extent to which a person develops depends largely on how much they develop. Here is the hierarchy of needs starting from the bottom, where each need has to be fulfilled in order to get to the top. The bottom of the hierarchy comprises of the basic physiological needs like food, drink, sleep and sex. These are the basic needs that one requires for survival. Safety and security comes second, this is to do with both physical and economic safety and security. The third most important need in the hierarchy is for love and belonging. The need for self-esteem and self-worth is the fourth level which is also closely associated with self-empowerment. The next level is about cognitive needs which relates to the need to understand and need for predictability and have a sense of meaning. This includes qualities like curiosity and search for meaning in all things around you. Aesthetic needs like need for beauty, symmetry and order makes the sixth element on the hierarchy. This level includes creativity, design and art. The last and seventh level is about self-actualisation. This about reaching full potential and becoming everything one is capable of becoming. It is about self-fulfilment since everyone needs to know that they are competent and autonomous with a limitless room for growth. Personal Development tips to be happy As the famous saying goes “Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.” How happy a person is, depends a great deal on the personal development of the person. It is important to remember that the personal development depends on several internal and external factors. Thus to be happy in life it is essential to find happiness around and make the best of your current set of circumstances. Listed here are a few tips on how to implement this: Everyone has their likes and dislikes about everything. To start with one should list out their likes and dislikes and try to obey them as far as possible. After all no two people are alike in every aspect; thus there are bound to be some personal likes and dislikes for all. Additionally, one should also keep as list of their feelings and impressions that defines their life. Every one of us must have had unique experiences during our lifetime and will have many more in the future. By listing all our experiences, it is possible to get a clearer definition of ourself. Besides which, answering the questions in an online survey correctly and honestly can also help find your personality. Humans beings are social beings and always like to be with a group of people. It is quite common for people to make friends and share their good times and bad times together. It is second nature to share secrets and take advice from friends. Friends also share, interact with a sense of positivity and kindness. A good friendship can remove boredom and make one’s life filled with joy and fun. Our social interaction has been redefined with the advent of the Internet. Using our mobile devices or computers to access the Internet and communicate with other people is almost second nature now. Social Media is one of the best ways to stay in touch and be informed of what one’s relatives are up to. Many people find happiness in sharing posts about themselves and things they like as well as in reading about their friends and relatives. Having a clear vision about one’s career goals has a big influence on how one can find happiness and satisfaction in life. It is vital that you take your own career decisions. However, there are some people who fail to gain a clear picture of what they imagine themselves doing down the line; such people should consult a career counsellor to help gain a clear picture. It is highly likely that your career goals change at some stage during your life. It is after all not a good idea to live a life that is going down a path of pain and sorrow. That said, it is also not a good idea to frequently change your career goals since your career preferences greatly influence your plans and life and ultimately the ability to be happy in life. Mistakes do occur and it is could be either your fault or that of the other person. It is always better to find a solution and learn from the mistake rather than going down the path of the blame game. Hence if you are guilty of making a mistake, it would be a good idea to take responsibility without getting depressed or frustrated. There are many different ways to accomplish one’s goals with unlimited sources and events. It is essential to take care of the present. At the same time, it is also essential to keep an eye out for the future. The decisions made in the present times and our present actions will have a big influence on the future. Hence being positive and having a positive outlook at life in the present can go a long way in ensuring on is happy in the future. Staying healthy is one of the most important aspects of being happy and living a happy life. Health is an important part of one’s personal development. Eating healthy food and regular exercise means our body will be filled with positive energy which in turns helps in our personal development. Setting personal development goals Personal Development is a something that one has make their own decision about. It is up to every individual to decide to engage in self-development. However, it is always a good idea to be involved in continuous personal development and be goal oriented. Here are listed some basic personal development goals that can help be happy in life Several studies have been conducted in many different universities across the globe. All these studies showed that a high IQ was not the main factor when it comes to being successful and happy. There are many other factors that have a great weightage like being more confident, actively setting goals in life and persevering. Thus it is necessary to have self-confidence in order to lead a happy life. The method in which you use your body affects your mental wellbeing to a great extent. Additionally, body language is a nonverbal communication that sends clear messages to those watching. This may have something to do with what you do. But more often it is how you do it rather than what you do. For example, while communicating with another person, the level of confidence and assertiveness coming through with your body language says a long about you. The same applies to your body posture as well. Certain body postures can make you feel good and even improve your performance. Body language has a big influence on your life, however discussing about this in detail is not in the scope of this topic. A key ingredient to being happy is to being able to get along with others. To be able to strike a conversation with another person whom you may not know very well requires certain skill and finesse. By making a small effort towards observing the other persons, his likes and dislikes and complementing them are sure to break the ice and lead to a better repo. This in turn can lead into a successful business deal or a good evening out, whatever the case might be. Procrastinating is one of the biggest waste of time. Furthermore, it is the reason of many missed opportunities and overall leads to a making you feel worse about yourself. Everyone can be much happier without procrastinating. A famous saying goes like this, ‘The early bird catches the worm’. Being an early riser, truly has its benefits. From being able to watch the sunrise, to getting some morning exercise there are many benefits for rising early. Several studies have shown those who wake up early are generally happier, healthier and more productive. Being proactive and having the ability to resolve a conflict are the key ingredients towards leading a better life. By not allowing others to dictate your life and taking responsibility for the results you can create the life that you want for yourself. Besides which it is also necessary to be able to deal with the conflicts you face in life since conflicts are a part of life. You can rarely expect to agree on all matters. Dwelling on the past is equally bad. Most of us are likely to have had a Professor that did favour them, other kids or office peers that they were bullied by or even a parent that is constantly putting them down. In order to be happy it is necessary not to dwell on such memories and think happy thoughts instead. It is largely accepted that knowledge is power. Reading is one of the best sources for knowledge. In addition to which being actively involved in researching subjects of interest also helps one stay informed. The quest for knowledge, if dealt with delivers a sense of satisfaction and fulfilment thus results in making us happier. How to lead a happy and successful life? Living a happy and successful life is governed by many factors. There are a few factors listed here that can lead to a happy life. Having a sense of purpose in like makes a big difference. There are many movies been released that would lead us to believe that we humans are simply being manufactured one after the other along the assembly line on planet earth. On the contrary every person does have a purpose. To determine the purpose one must ask themselves as to what makes them feel vibrant and good about their existence. Motivating yourself every day is a must. Motivation does give a sense of purpose and revitalizes your will to perform the task. It is a good practice to read books and do your own research. There is a sea of knowledge out there and it is likely that if you have a problem, the solution to it has already been found. Hence by doing a little bit of research can save a lot of pain. The best thing you can do to be happier is to be yourself. It is a waste of time to live someone else’s life or dream. It is not necessary to seek social approval while doing something that is morally right and important to yourself. Some people do prefer loneliness over immoral company and they are right in doing so if you are in peace with yourself. It is likely that you may feel guilty over some action I the past. It is necessary to put that in the past and carry on with a fresh start. Settings goals is important and taking actions towards that goal is more important; since the goal will fail without any the appropriate action. If one maintains a daily schedule and strictly follows it, the results will be good and rewards will come in several forms. Developing excellent relationships and a powerful network will help you improve and achieve your goal. By surrounding yourself with people who are successful and who are achievers it is possible to better yourself.