Henrietta Henry

CHARACTERS: TheRel at i onshi pTher api st : Mr sAdammaEl i j ah38y ear s TheOl derMar r i edCoupl e: Mr&Mr sOl ai t an( Woman: Sey i , Man: Shi na)I nt hei r60s TheYoungNewl yWedCoupl e: Tay o&Onome( Tay o30, Onome32) TheDi v or cee: MrAsukwo43 TheSi ngl eGi r l : Mi ssWummi 27y ear sol d TheFemi ni st : Mi ssChi oma25y ear sol d TheSi ngl e40y earol d: Mi ssAmanada 2Secur i t yMen Openi ngScene: I NT:Sl owmoofawomani nhermi d30swal ki ngi nt oanopenspacer oom.Ther ei sat abl e byt hesi dewher ewat er ,cups,smal lchopsandcof f eehavebeenpl aced.Capt ur esl owmo ofherf r om t heshoeswal ki ngi n, t hef i l ei nherhand, herl i ps, f ul lvi ewf r om behi nd… Capt ur i ngherf r om behi nd,youcanseeabl ur r edvi sualofchai r sar r angedi naci r cl ewi t h peopl eseat ed. Capt ur eexpr essi onsont hemen’ sf acesandt hemar r i edol derwomenhi t t i ngt hemout hs oft hei rhusband,anot herpi nchest hel eg ofherman.Si ngl el adi esar esmi l i ng and admi r i ngherasshewal ksi n. Shesi t sandweseeherf ul lvi ew. Mr sAdammaEl i j ah:Hel l oEv er y one,mynamei sMr sAdammaEl i j ah,I ’ my ourr el at i onshi p t her api st .Youar eal lwel come.I fy oul ookov ert her e,y oucanseewehav emor et han enoughr ef r eshment sf orev er y one, y ouar ef r eet of i l l y our sel fwi … Mr sSey iOl ai t an: ( whi sper st oherhusbandi nYor uba)Nat hi ssmal l pi ki ngogi v eusadv i ce? Mr sAdammaEl i j ah:( r espondsi nYor uba)Mummy,I ’ v ebeenmar r i edf or12y ear s.Ihav ea Degr ee&Mast er si nMar r i ageandFami l ycounsel l i ng… Mr sSey iOl ai t an: Aaah, ( Speaksi nYor uba)Youunder st andYor uba?NobeI gboy oube? Mr sAdammaEl i j ah:YesMabutIgr ewupi nLagos. MrAsukwo: What ’ sgoi ngonher e, i st hi saYor ubacommuni t yci r cl e? Mr sAdamma:I ’ m sor r ySi r .Iwasj ustt r y i ngt ogi v emummyher eal i t t l eassur ancet hatI ’ m capabl eandqual i f i edt obeher e.Tol i st ent oy oual landconnecty out ot hebestsol ut i ons f ory ourr el at i onshi pchal l enge. Letmer ei t er at ewhatIwassay i ngt oMummybef or e… Mr sOnome: Emm, Mr sEl i j ah.Doy ouspeakhausa? Mr sAdamma: NoIdonot . Mr sOnome:( smi l es&whi sper st ohusbandi nhausa)It ol dy oul et ’ suseamal ecounsel l or . Thi sonei sj ustspeaki ngbi gbi ggr ammar . Mr sAdamma:Ihav eaDegr ee&Mast er si nMar r i ageandFami l ycounsel l i ngandaPHDi n Chr i st i anCounsel l i ng.Ihav ecounsel l edov er4000si ngl esandmar r i edpeopl e.Ihav ebeen mar r i edf or12y ear sandI ’ m bl essedwi t ht wochi l dr en. Pl easeIneedy out ohav eanopenmi ndt owar dsme.Thi si sasaf eci r cl e.Youcanbeasr aw andbl untasy ouwanther e…wi t houtbei ngdi sr espect f ul . I nt hegr oupt her apyappl i cat i ony oual lf i l l ed, Ihopewer eadt hecommi t ment sneededt obe her e?( Theynodded)Good.Addedt ot hat , Ihav emyr ul esy oumustabi det o.Youcannotget phy si calher e.Leav eanybr ut albehav i ourout si det hedoororel set hoset wot her e( poi nt st o t hesecur i t yguar ds)wi l l showy ouy ourwayout .Pl usy oucannotbedi sr espect f ul t ome. Soi fy oucan’ tf ol l owmyr ul es, y oumi ghtaswel l l eav enow…pauses Mr sOnome: ( Whi sper st oherhusbandi nanor der )Oy al et ’ sgo Mr sOnomest andsupandmovesf or war dabi tbutt ur nst oseeherhusbanddi dn’ tst and up butwas l ooki ng ather .She t r i es t o si gnalhi m wi t ht wi st i ng herf ace buthe’ s expr essi onl ess. Mr sAdamma: Maar ey oul eav i ngornot ? Mr sOnome:gr udgi ngl yanswer s…No, I ’ m goi ngt oeasemy sel f .Shewal ksout Fadei n:Mr sOnomeseat edbackbesi deherhusband. Mr sAdamma: So. . .Let ’ sBegi n. Sheopensherf i l e. Mr sAdamma: Let ’ sst ar twi t hMi ssWummi …I nt r oducey our sel fandt el l uswhyy ou’ r eher e. Mi ssWummi :Okay …Mynamei sWummiObashar e.Iam 27y ear sol dandI ’ m her ebecause Ineedabi tofcl ar i t yi nr egar dsmyr el at i onshi p…shi pssss( Shest r essesont hessss) Mr sAdamma: Youmeany ou’ r ei nmor et hanoner el at i onshi p? Wummi : Yes. Mr sSey i : AAAhmydear , t hati spr ost i t ut i on Mi ssChi oma:I nwhatwayMa?Becauseshe’ si n3r el at i onshi ps?Whati swr ongwi t ht hat ? Sheshoul dputal lhereggsi nonebasket ?I fi ti samant hatmakest hatcomment ,wi l ly ou sayhe’ sa pr ost i t ut e?No,y ou’ l lsayhe’ sa man.That ’ st he r ubbi sh doubl e st andar d si t uat i onswewomenf aceev er y day .I t ’ ssoannoy i ng.Tohel l wi t hi t . Mr sSey i : Wo, don’ tt al kt omeany how.Tohel l wi t hwho? Mr sAdamma: Shedi di n’ tsayt ohel l wi t hy ou, shesai dt ohel l wi t hi t .Asi nt hesi t uat i on. Mr sSey i : You’ r enotmar r i edabi , atl eastwewi l l notwonderwhyy ouar enot , y ourmout hhas gi v eni taway . Chi oma:l aughsMaI ’ m nother ebecauseI ’ ml ooki ngf orhusbandorbecauseI ’ m sadt hatI don’ t .I ’ m her ebecauseIact ual l ydon’ twantt omar r yandwoul dl i ket oknowwhypeopl eand soci et yf eel st hati ti sabadt hi ngnott ogetmar r i edorwantt ogetmar r i ed. MUSTEVERYONEGETMARRI ED?SHOULDWEFEELASHAMEDI FWEDON’ TWANTTO? WHATI FIJUSTWANTTOADOPTACHI LD&BEONMYOWN, I STHATSOBAD? Ev er y onei squi eti nt her oom…t hent heyal l st ar tt al ki ngatonce, someagai nst , somef or . Mr sSey i :( Pr ayi ngt oGodi nYor uba)Godpl easedon’ tl etanyofmydaught er st ur noutl i ke t hi s, Iwantdi r ectbl oodgr andchi l dr en. Mr sAdamma:OkLet ’ sset t l edown.Ev er y onecal m down.( Room becomesqui et )Mr s Adammawr i t esonherf i l e. Al r i ght , I ’ v et akendowny ourquest i onMi ss…. . Chi oma: Chi omaNdanef e Adamma:Okay ,t hanky ouMi ssChi omaf ory ouri nput .Let ’ sgetbackt oWummi .Pl easego ahead. Wummi :Look,y oucanj udgemeal ly ouwant .Youhav en’ tev enl etmet el lmyst or y ,y ou al r eadyconcl udedont heper sony ouper cei v emet obe.That ’ swhyy oungpeopl ecan’ tt al k t ot hei rpar ent s,wesmel lt hej udgement alcomment sandsowebot t l eupev r y t hi ngandt r y t osor tt hi ngsoutour sel v es. Mr sSeyiandMrShi nal ookateachot herwi t habi tofshame. Any way ,l i keIwassay i ng…I ’ mf r om anav er agef ami l y ,wear enotpoor ,wear enotr i ch.My dadi sl at e, hedi edwhenIwas13.Mymum hasbeenr ai si ngmyt wi ny oungerbr ot her sand meal l byher sel fsi ncet hen.Shehasendur edal otbecauseofus…al ot . Pl easest aywi t hme,Ihav emyr easonsf orment i oni ngt hi sbef or egi v i ngdet ai l saboutmy r el at i onshi psss. Cl ear shert hr oat Somyf i r stpr ospecti sanEngi neer , hi snamei sRi shad Mr sAdamma: YoumeanRi char d. Wummi : That ’ swhatIsai d, Ri shad. Mr sOnomeeyei ngt het her api stwi t hoversabil ook. Wummi :Ri shadi sexcept i onal l yhandsome,he' sr i ch.Imeanhehashi sownhouse,car s. . . Hi spar ent sar ewel lknown. . .Ev er y t hi ngabouthi mi scl assyandsophi st i cat ed.Hegoest o chur chr egul ar l y .He' sani dealhusbandi nt hepubl i cey ebutt her ear esomet hi ngsIj ust don’ tknowi fIcancopewi t horam Ibei ngov ersensi t i v eabouti t ? Ihav eknownhi mf or5mont hsandf orev er yt i meIt r yt obr i ngupany t hi ngt hatper t ai nst o mydr eam orpl ansf ormyl i f ei nt er msofmycar eer , hehasnot hi ngconst r uct i v et osay .No adv i ce,nosuppor t .Hemakescomment sl i ke,“ i fwegetmar r i ednow y ouwantt obe t r av el i nganddoi ngal lt hese” .“ Youcanwor kundermyowncompany ” .“ Ihav emor et han enoughmoneyt ot akecar eofy ou” .Whi chi st r ue,hegi v esmeany t hi ngIneed.Heuseshi s i nt i at i v eandgi v esmemoneywi t houtmeaski ng. Het henendsi twi t h, “ Madam doy ourt hi ng”andhedoesn’ tsayi ti naposi t i v eway . Anot heri ssuei s;butt hi shashappenedonl yonce.Ibymi st akef el lonapr ot ot y peofan est at ebui l di nghei swor ki ngonandwhenhesaw i thef l i pped,t heangerwasscar ybut t hat ’ snotal l .WhenImov edcl osert ocomf or thi m andapol ogi zehepushedmet i l lIal most f el l andhedi dn’ tl ookbackt oconf i r mi fI ’ m hur t . Thenmyl asti ssuewi t hhi mi shi sper si st encet owantsex.ImeanIcanhandl ebei ngki ssed butIr eal l ywantt ohol dof fsext i l l mar r i age.Het henget supsetwhenIr ef use. Thesear et hepr obl emswi t hRi shadandt hesear et hequest i onsIaskmy sel f . SHOULD IBEWI TH AMAN WHO DOESNOTSUPPORTMYDREAMSAND VI SI ON FOR MYSELF?DOILEAVEHI M BECAUSEOFONEI NSTANCEHESEEMEDVI OLENT?SHOULDI MARRYSOMEONEWHO FREQUENTLYASKSFORSEXANDSEESNOTHI NG WRONG I N HAVI NGI TBEFOREMARRI AGE? Ther api sti st aki ngnot es. Mr sOnome:Soy ouwantt ol eav ehi m becauseofmi norf l aws, someonewhocant akecar e ofy ouandy ourf ami l y ?Youdon’ thav e….Shehol dshert ongueandl ooksatt het her api st . Youhav et oomuchsense. Mr sAmanada: Hav ey oudi scussedhi m wi t hy ourmum? Wummi : YesIhav e. Amanada: Andwhatdi dshesay ? Onome:Mymum pr essur i sesmet omar r yhi m becauseshewant smet obewi t hsomeone whocant akecar eofus.Thati swhyIt al kedaboutt hest at usofmyf ami l ybef or e.Mymum hasdonesomuch,shehassuf f er edal ot ,Iwantt obeabl et or epayherbef or eshel eav es t hi sear t h.Shedoesn’ tev enwantt ol i st ent oany t hi ngIhav eagai nstRi shad.Idon’ twanther di sappoi nt edi nmesoIj ustkeptqui etandst oppedt r y i ngt oexpl ai n. MrAsukwo: Soy ou’ r ewi l l i ngt ol i v ey ourl i f ef ory ourmum ev eni fy ouendupunhappy ? Wummi : Iwantt obehappy …Iwantmymum t obehappi er .Idon’ tknow…Idon’ tknow. Mr sAdamma: Tel l usabouty ourot herpr ospect s. Wummi :Okay …Bachel ornumbert woi sGi l ber t ,he’ sabusi nessman.Hehast hi sbadboy per sona.I ' m notsay i nghe' sabadper son, hej usthast hi s. . .Swag, conf i dencet hatmakesa gi r l gobr r r r r r r h, l i ket hatol dcocacol aadv er t .Hi ssmi l e. . .HeeeeeyGod. Mi ssChi oma: Hehast hatl y nxv i begoi ngabi .Showapi ct ur eofLynxonscr een Wummi : Ohmygoodness, y ou’ r et her e.Shesay spoi nt i ngt oChi oma Mr sSey i : It houghty ouhat eMen. Chi oma:Whendi dIsayIhat eMen?Mai fy oudon’ thav eany t hi ngconst r uct i v et osayt ome pl easedonotspeakt omebecauseIcanseey ouar ehear i ngbuty ou’ r eobv i ousl ynot under st andi ngany t hi ngIsay .JustbecauseIdon’ twantt omar r ydoesnotmeanIhat eMen. Pl easeopeny ourmi ndandbeenl i ght ened. MrShi na: Omoy i , ar ey oumad?I si tmywi f ey ou’ r esay i ngshedoesn’ thav esense. Chi oma: Ther ey ougo.Twi st i ngmywor ds.It hi nkEngl i shi sact ual l yy oupeopl e’ spr obl em. Upr oarbet weenMr&Mr sShi naandOnome.Ther estar et r yi ngt ocal mt hem down MrAsukwo: Aunt yt hi sy ourf emi ni stt hi ng, don’ ty out hi nky ouguy sar et aki ngi tt ooext r eme? Somet i mesi ti sasi ft hi sf emi ni sm i sequalt or udenessandmadnessanddi sr espectand f ool i shness.I t ’ sl i key oupeopl edon’ tknowy ourpl aceany mor e.Youwi l lj ustst ar tshout i ng onme,not hi ngIev erdi dwasgoodenough,y ouwi l lhi tmeandexpectt hatIshoul dnothi t herback.Youmadet hem seemeast hemonst erandl ett hem seey ouast hest r ongwoman whowon’ tt akeshi tf r om any body .Ihat et hewayIhav ebecome,t hewaypeopl eseeme.I hat et hatI ’ m af r ai dt omov eonwi t hmyl i f e.Idon’ tknowi fi t ’ sev engodl yf ormet omar r y agai nsi nceI ’ m anout castt omyf ami l yandt hechur ch.Mychur chf r ownsupondi v or ceso much,I ’ v enotbeenabl et ogot her esi nceIdi v or cedmywi f e.I ’ m 43.43!A y earpl us mar r i ageandi t ’ sal lov er .Iwast r eadi ngoneggshel l st i l lIdeci dedt ol eav e.1mont hbl i ss, anot hermont hpar t i albl i ssand10mont hshel landuncer t ai nt yi nbet ween.Thel astepi sode wehadwaswhenshet ol dmet oshutupandgett he“ f ”outofourhousei fIcan’ thandl eher di scussi ngwi t hherf r i ends.Al lIaskedwasPl easecany ouandy ourf r i endsr educey our v oi cebecauseI ’ ml i st eni ngt ot henews.Idi dn’ tev ensayi ti nf r ontoft hem, Ical l edherand whi sper edi ti nt oherear s.Shescr eamed…Shecal l edmeal lmanner sofnamesi nf r ontof herf r i ends.Andnoneoft hem coul dsaydon’ tbehav el i ket hi s…Il ef tmyownhomet oav oi d any t hi ngel sehappeni ng. Ever yonei ssi l entandl ooksathi m.He’ sabi tt ear yeyed. Amanadat oucheshi sbacki nanactofcomf or t I ’ m sor r yf ormyout bur st ,I ’ v enotbeenabl et ot al kabouti tsi ncet hi shappenedr ecent l y … I ’ v easkedmy sel f : SHOULDIHAVEHADMOREPATI ENCEWI THHERANDENDURETHEDI SGRACE,BEATI NG ANDFI GHTSCONSI DERI NGWESAI DFORBETTERORWORSE?SHOULDIGOBACKASI HAVEFOUNDOUTSHE’ SWI THCHI LD?CANIJUSTTAKECAREOFTHECHI LDWHENHE ORSHEI SBORNANDREMARRY?WI LLGODBLESSMYNEW MARRI AGEI FIDO? Mr sAdamma: I ’ m sor r ywe’ v edev i at edabi t .Wummi I ’ l l getbackt oy ou. Wummi : Sl i ght l yr ai sesbot hherhandsi gni f y i ngi t ’ sokaysheunder st ands. Mr sAdamma: Mr……? MrAsukwo: Mynamei sDani el sAsukwo Mr sAdamma:MrDani el s.Howl ongdi dy ouknowy ourwi f e.Sor r y ,y ourExwi f ebef or ey ou mar r i edher ? MrAsukwo: Wedat edabout6mont hsbef or eget t i ngmar r i ed. MrTay o: Appar ent l y , 6mont hsi st ooshor t . MrAsukwo: Sor r y ? MrTay o: Isai d, appar ent l y6mont hsi st ooshor tat i met odeci det omar r ysomeone. Mr sOnome: Meani ngwhat ?Sai di nanger Mr sAdamma: Thi si sact ual l yt hef i r stt i meI ’ v ehear dy ouspeak, Mr…. ? MrTay o: MrTay oAkande Mr sOnome:AndI ’ m Mr sOnomeAkande.FacesherhusbandSowhataboutt hesi xmont h bei ngt ooshor t ? MrTayodoesnotr espond Mr sOnome:Ooooo…OhOhOhOh.Sot hi swhyy ouwantust ocomeher e.ToDi v or ceme. Af t eral lI ’ v edonef ory ou.How Ihav ebeenwi t hy ou.Because6mont hsi snotenought o knoweachot herabi ?Hav eInotaskedwhati swr ongwi t hy oucount l esst i mes?Youdonot answer .Idon’ tknowi fi t ’ sbecauseoft heweddi ngorbecausey oudon’ thav eaj ob.I si tmy f aul ty oudon’ thav eone? MrTay o: SHUTUuuuuuuuP! ! ! Ever yonel ooksi nshock. I si tt haty oudon’ theary our sel f ?Tal kt al kt al kt al kt al k.Youdon’ tal l owmeai rmymi nd.You don’ tal l owmet ospeak.Justear l i ery ouwer eal r eadycommandi ngmet ol eav et hi smeet i ng. Mustev er y t hi nggoy ourway ?I si tbecausey ou’ r eol der ? Whatt hehel l i swr ongwi t hy ou.I fIwant edt ol eav ey ou, woul dIhav esuggest edcounsel l i ng? Can’ ty out hi nk.Yout hi nkI ’ m happyIdon’ thav eaj ob. Mr sOnome:I fy ouar enothappy ,whatar ey oudoi ngabouti t ?Iexpect edt hatbynowy ou woul dhav egot t ensomet hi ngdoi ng.Can’ ty ouseeI ’ m st r essed?Handl i ngy ourr esponsi bi l i t y andhandl i ngmi ne. MrTay o: Andt hati sy ourr easonf ornothav i ngsexwi t hmer i ght ?Ladi esandgent l emen, my wi f ehasnothadsexwi t hmei n3mont hs…. .I ’ ml i v i ngwi t hmySi st ernaabi , notmywi f e. Mr sOnome: Ehen, Iknowt hati st heonet hati spai ni ngy ou.Tobet r ut hf ul , si ncey oubr ought usher et oai r r r rourmi nds, t hat ’ snott heonl yr easonwhyI ’ v est oppedhav i ngsexwi t hy ou.I am st r essed,y esbutIdon’ twantanymi st akeofget t i ngpr egnantbecauseI ’ m notgoi ngt o handl eme, y ouandchi l dr enorchi l d. MrTay o:Youcoul dnott el lmet hi swi t ht hewayy our anteasi l y ?Youcanqui ckl ydef end y our sel fandt al kabov emebuty oucoul dnotj ustt el l mecal ml yt hatt hi si st hei ssue. Mr sOnome: I fy out r ul ycar eaboutme, Idon’ tneedt ot el l y ouany t hi ng.Youcan’ tt el l mey ou don’ tknowI ’ v enotbeenhappyandst r essed.Ourf r i endscanseei twhent heyv i si tus,why can’ ty oumyhusband? MrTay o:That ’ swhyy ouhav et oshowt hem whosebossi nt hehousewhent hey ’ r ear ound. Sendi ngmeoner r andst obr i ngt hi sandt hat .Count er i ngany t hi ngIsay .Youdon’ tev enhav e t hepat i encet owai tt i l l t hey ’ r egonebef or ey ouconf r ontme. Mr sOnome:Ionl ycount ery ouwheny oukeept al ki ngaboutf ol l owi ngy ourpassi onofbei ng apai nt er ….Whenwast hel astt i mey ouappl i edf oraj ob?Whenwast hel astt i mey ouwent outt ogetsomet hi ngdoi ng? MrTay o:NotPai nt er ,I ’ m anar t i st .Ibel i ev eonedayI ’ l lbeaMast erdoi ngt hi sandI ’ l lmake mi l l i onsf r om i t . Mr sOnome:Ehn, Ihear .Lookf orof f i cewor kf i r st .Herv oi cenotasl oud.You’ v enotf i ni shed bei ngt heMast eri nbedy ouwantt obeamast eri nent r epr eneur shi p. MrTay o: Whatdi dy ousay ? Mr sOnome:Audi bl yIsai dy ouhav enotf i ni shedbei ngaMast eri nbed,y ouwantt obea mast eri nent r epr eneur shi p.Al ly oudoi s“ Bude”( Openi nhausa)andt hent hedeedi sdone. Doy out aket i met osat i sf yme, No.Doy out akeoutt i met ounder st andmybody , No.I ssex onl yf ory ou? MrTayost andsupandki ckshi schai rbackwar dswhi l egl ar i ngathi swi f e. Thesecur i t ymot i onsf or war dandst ops.Onomel ooksupathi mi nshock,l ooksatt he chai randl ooksbackathi m.MrTayowal ksawayt owar dst hedoor . Mr sAdamma:Okay …It hi nkweal lneedabr eak.Whydon’ ty oual lhav ey our sel v essome snacksanddr i nks, t henwer esumet hesessi on. Mr sAdammawal kst owar dst hedoorwher eMrTayowas Mr sOnomef acedt heel der l ycoupl eandsai d; Iwentov er boar d, di dn’ tI ? MrandMr sOl ai t angaveapi t i f ulst ar eandnoddedatOnome. Mi ssChi oma:Thatwaspr et t yi nt ensebutIunder st andy ourst ance.Somet i mesaswomen weneedt ospeakoutanddemandf or … Mi ssAmanada: Ssshsssh, Shett op…Shett opy ourmout h. MrAsukwost andsupandwal kst ot het abl e.Mi ssAmanadawat cheshi mr eacht het abl e andf ol l owshi m af t er war ds Mr sOnome:Tal ki ngt oMr&Mr sOl ai t anI ’ m notabadwoman.Iam j ustpentupwi t hso muchanger .Ihadhi ghex pect at i onsgoi ngi nt ot hi smar r i ageandnow If eelwemadet he deci si onofmar r y i ngt oosoon.Weshoul dhav ehadsomet hi ngsi npl acebef or egoi ngahead. MrShi na: Doy oul ov ey ourhusband? Onome: YesIdo.Il ov ehi mv er ymuch. BUTI SLOVEALLTHAT’ SNEEDEDI NARELATI ONSHI PORMARRI AGE?SHOULDIHAVE WAI TED TI LLHEHAD A JOB BEFOREWEGOTMARRI ED?WASIWRONG MARRYI NG SOMEONEYOUNGERTHANME?MUSTIEXPLAI NEVERYTHI NGIFEELTOMYHUSBAND, CAN’ T HE TELL WHEN THERE’ S SOMETHI NG WRONG? WAS I T WRONG GETTI NG MARRI EDJUSTAFTERKNOWI NGEACHOTHERFORSI XMONTHS? MrShi naandMr sSeyicont i nuespeaki ngwi t hOnomei naudi bl y Mi ssAmanada:Sher eal l ydi danumberony ou.Shest andsnott oof arf r om MrDani el s Asukwo. MrDani el s: Wi t houtsmi l i ng.Youhavenoi dea. Mi ss Amanada:My name i s Amanada.I ’ m an I nt er nat i onalf ashi on desi gner .Iown Amanada’ s… MrDani el s: Amanada’ sCout ur eOut f i t Amanada: Oh, soI ’ mf amousaf t er al l . Dani el s:Yea…Iandmywi f e…ImeanmyExwi f egotourweddi ngout f i t sf r om y ourbr anchat Wuse2.Theyar eabsol ut el ygr eat . Amanada:Thanky ou…Al t houghIdon’ tknow i fIshoul dbehappyaboutt hat ,consi der i ng howi tgoes. Dani el s:Nah,i t ’ sf i ne.It hi nkI ’ m good.Spi l l i ngi tal loutt odayhel pedmebr eat he.( Looksat her )Sowhyar ey ouher e? Amanada:I ’ m ki ndoff eel i ngshyt al ki ngabouti tbecausei tl ooksl i kei tpal esi ncompar i son t oy oursi t uat i on. Dani el s:I tdoesn’ tmat t er .Ev er y one’ ssi t uat i oni si mpor t antand v al i dt ot hei ndi v i dual exper i enci ngi t .I tdoesn’ tmat t eri fanot herper sonsay sot her wi se. Amanada:Shet ur ns,smi l es,l eansont het abl eandsi psabi tofherj ui cebef or et al ki ng.So I ’ m 40andI ’ v enev erbeenmar r i ed… Dani el s: Don’ tl ett hatgett oy ou, l ookatwhathashappenedt ome… Amanada: AndI ’ v enev erhadsex. Dani el s: Mast erJesus! Amanadabur st soutl aughi ng Dani el s: Aaah, ( gr absl owerbel l y)Myovar i es!Theyar epai ni ngmef ory ou Amanadal aughsandnudgeshi sar m.Theybot hl augh Amanada:I ’ v ebeenagoodgi r lal lmyl i f e.Idon’ tdr i nkIdon’ tsmoke,Idon’ tcl ub…Mostof myf r i endst hatdi dgr eatsi nsi nmyey esar eal lmar r i ed.Somet hi ngst hey ’ v edoneshoul d notbement i oned, y ett heyf i ndmenwhol ov et hem f orwhot heyar e, whot heyhav edesi r ed t omeet .Iont heot herhandhav enotbeent hatf or t unat e. Dani el s: Doy out hi nky ourst andar dsar ehi gh? Amanada: Letmet el l y oumyi deal manandt heny oucant el l mei fmyst andar dsar ehi gh. Iwantat al lmanoramanmyhei ght .Idon’ twantashor tman.IwantsomeoneGodf ear i ng. Iwanthi mt ohav eameansofl i v el i hood,Idon’ tneedhi m weal t hy .Idon’ tmi ndany compl exi on.Ev enAl bi no,Idon’ tmi nd.Iwantsomeonewhowi l lsuppor tmydr eamsand encour agemet hr oughi t .Iwantsomeonewhoi ssat i sf i edwi t ht wochi l dr en,Idon’ twant mor et hant hat . So, whatdoy out hi nk? Dani el s: I t ’ sr easonabl e, notr i di cul ousatal l .Yourexpect at i onsar ef i r ml ywi t hi nr eason Amanada: ThankYou…Sowhyam Ist i l l si ngl e? Dani el s: I si tt haty ou’ v enev erbeenappr oachedbef or e? Amanada:Ahnooh,I ’ v ebeenappr oachedoh,enev erbadr eachl i ket hat .I ’ v ej ustnothad anyt r ansl at ei nt osomet hi ngser i ous… Mybr eaki ngpoi ntt hi sy earwast hef actIal mostdi dsomet hi ngoutofchar act er .Oneofmy f r i endswhoi smar r i edmi sunder st oodacommentImadeandt ookmet omeeta“ Hol yMan” . Dani el : Whatdi dy ousay ? Amanada:Isai dIam opent oanyopt i on.Iwasact ual l yr ef er r i ngt obei ngopent oany phy si cal t y peofman. Dani el s: Oohmy … Amanada:Yea…That ’ show t hi smanbr oughtoutsomer i di cul ousi t emsandsai dIhad spi r i t ual husbands…Twooft hem…Dani el sl aughThatIneedt obat handeatt hesei t ems Dani el s: Shi t , t hesescam ar t i st s. Amanada:Dani el s…I nmyhear tIknewi twasascam.Iev encal l edmyf r i endoutandt ol d hert hi si sr ubbi shbuthercommentmademeashamedsor tof … Shesai d;Whati st her e?Thati tseemsI ’ m nott i r edofbei ngunmar r i ed.ThatI t ’ snot ev er y bodyshebr i ngsher ebutshebr oughtmebecauseshe’ scl oset omeandwant st ohel p. Shewassoopi ssed. Sheal sosai dt hatt hi sov ergoodgi r lweyIsabidowher ehasi tt akenme?ShebiI ’ m doi ng Hol yMar y , Upt i l l nowInev erst i l l seemyJoseph. Shewentonandonbef or eshewentbackt ot hePr i est …If el tbad.AndIst ar t edt oconv i nce my sel ft hati t ’ st r ue,wher ehasmygoodgi r lt akenme.Iev enconv i ncedmy sel ft hati t wor kedf ormyf r i end, i tcanwor kf orme. Amanada:Igothome…. Icr i ed…. Il ookedatt hesmel l yi t ems…. Icoul dn’ tdoi t .Icoul dn’ t .So hear daboutt hi sonI nst agr am anddeci dedt ochecki tout .Letmef i ndouti f THEREARENEW THI NGSISHOULDLEARN TO DO TO ATTRACTTHERI GHTSERI OUS MAN.DOINEEDTODOWNPLAYMYSUCCESSTOATTRACTTHERI GHTMAN?SHOULDI JUSTGI VEUPONFI NDI NGMYDEFI NI TI ONOFANI DEALMANANDACCEPTWHOEVER COMESMYWAY? Dani el s:Iknow i t ’ sf r ust r at i ng.I twasf r ust r at i ngf ormenott ot al kofy ouasawoman….I l ov ey ournamebyt heway . Amanada: Thanky ou…act i ngshy Chi omagott ot het abl ei nt i met ohearDani el sl astcomment . Chi oma:Soar ey ousay i ngbecauseshe’ sawomanshecan’ thav et hement alandemot i onal capaci t yhandl et hesi t uat i onandbel essf r ust r at edt hany ou?Becauseshe’ sawomanshe wi l l bemor edi st r aughtbecausewomencan’ thandl ebei ngal one, wi t houtaman? Dani el s: Di sgeh, deysendy ou?dem deydoy ouf r om v i l l agey ounoknow I naudi bl e:Amanadast ar t sl aughi ng,Dani el sandChi omaar est i l lgoi ngateachot herwi t h wor ds Cutt o MrandMr sOl ai t an, Mr sOnomeandWummiappr oachi ngt het abl et ogetsomet hi ngt oeat Mr sSey i : Iseey oual l ar eget t i ngal ongnow.Cast sasi degl ancet owar dsChi oma. Amanada&Dani el scl eart hei rt hr oatandl ookatChi omai napr ompt i ngway Chi oma: ( t akesi nadeepbr eat h)I ’ m sor r yMai fIcameacr ossasbei ngr udet oy ou. Mr sSey i : Hmmm, mydaught ert hatI ’ m al way scompl ai ni ngt hatshe’ sst ubbor nandnaught y , shenost ubbor nr eachy ouoh. Chi oma: Yel s, Iagr ee, Ay am av er yst ubbor npel si n( I nFunkeAki ndel e’ svoi ce) Ever ybodyl aughs Chi oma:ButI ’ m notabadper son MrShi na: Iguesswewer eal i t t l ehar dony ou Chi oma:Wel l ,I ’ m usedt oi t .Ij ustwantt obemor eout spokenaboutmyf eel i ngsand t hought s…Igr ew upwat chi ngmydadbeatt heshi toutofmymum.Shet ooki ti n,sai d not hi ngbecauseshewant edt opr ot ectus…ev ent ual l ywest ar t edexper i enci ngt hesame t hi ng.Butwhenwegr ewt ohandl ei t ,wet ol dhert ol eav eandl at erwej oi nedherwhenwe coul d. Mr sSey i ;Mydear ,Inow seewher ey ou’ r ecomi ngf r om.Buty ou’ r espeaki ngandmaki ng y ourdeci si onsf r om abr okenspi r i t . Mi ssChi oma:Iwasbr oken, y esbutIsweari tmademest r onger .Idon’ tgoar oundadv i si ng womennott omar r y , orpr eachi ngt hegospelofMenar escum ory oudon’ tneedt hem.It el l t hem t omakedeci si onsheal t hyf ort hem basedonwhatt heywantnotwhatsoci et y , cul t ur e orr el i gi onpr essur i zest hem t odo.Iwantwoment obet r eat edwi t hequalorev enbet t er r espectaccor dedt ot hem.I t ’ spai nf ulandIdar eaddbackwar dwhenweexcuset hemal e f ol kandpuni sht hef emal esf orbehav i ngbadl ywhenani ssuear i ses.Orpayamanhi gher mor et hanawomanf ort hesamej obbei ngdoneofwhi cht hef emal emi ghtbedoi ngbet t er i n.Ther e’ sawhol el ott oi t Amanada:Iunder st oodt hepur poseoff emi ni sm bef or ebutwhatt hi sgener at i onhast ur ned i ti smadness.Ij ustdon’ twanty out ogett ot hatpoi nt . Chi oma:Iknow Iknow.Ther ear eext r emi sti nev er yspher ebutt hatdoesnotmeanwe shoul ddenouncei tt ot al l y .Wi l lapast orst opcal l i nghi msel faPast orbecauset her ear eal ot off akepast or sdoi ngabomi nabl et hi ngsoutt her e?Orwi l ly oust opbei ngahumanbei ng andcal ly our sel fagoatbecausehumanbei ngshav ecommi t t edmonst r ousat r oci t i esi nt he wor l d? . . . .Ij ustt hi nkwomen,f emal es;sensi bl ef emal esshoul dr egr oupandf or m al ar ger v oi ceagai nstt hosewhohav esoi l edt her eal pur poseandi deal soff emi ni sm. Ever yoneexceptWummii snoddi ngi nsomewhatagr eement .Wummiwasbusyeat i ng t hi ngsf r om t het abl et hewhol et i me. MrAsukwo: You’ r easmar tKi dt hough.Youshoul dr unf orapol i t i cal posi t i ononeday . Chi oma: Yea, may beIwi l l . MrAsukwo: SoWummi doy ouagr eewi t hChi oma’ sl ogi c? Wummil ooksl ostwi t hst uf f edf oodi nhermout hbutsher esponds. Wummi : Yea, i t ’ sal l pol i t i cs.( Shespel l spol i t i cs)POLI TI CS, Pol i t i cs. Ever yonest andsl ooki ngatherdumbf ounded…Theyal lbur stoutl aughi ngatheri ncl udi ng Wummi Wummi : Nov ex, Idi dnothearonet hi ngaf t erIsawt hef oodont hi st abl e Ever yonest i l ll aughi ngandt easi ngher Mr sSey i : ( Speaksi nYor uba)Ol odochi l d, i t ’ sboy st hathav escat t er edy ourbr ai n Panst owher eMr sAdammaandMrTayoar est andi ng Adamma:wi t hasmi l e…Theyseem t obeget t i ngal ongal lofasudden… Theybot ht ur n t owar dst hegr oup Theyar est ar t i ngt ounder st andeachot herandembr acet hei rdi f f er ences. Adamma:Li keIwassay i ng,Iknowy ouregoi sbr ui sedandy ouhav eev er yr i ghtt of eelt hat way .Somet hi ngy oubot hhav enott al kedaboutoneonone,y ou’ r ehear i ngi tf ort hef i r st t i mei nf r ontofpeopl e.ButIdon’ tt hi nkshehat esy ou. Tay o:Shedoesn’ that eme,shej ustget sangr yanddi sr espect sme.Iknow f oraf actt hat shel ov esmev er ymuchandIl ov ehert oo.Thet hi ngsshehasdonef orme.Shehasst ood upt opeopl ef orme.Theweddi ng, shepai dmostf ori t .Idi dn’ twantt hatt ohappen, Iwant ed t owai tbutIt hi nkshewasaf r ai d.Af r ai dI ’ l lchangemymi ndoneday ,af r ai dt hatI ’ l lsee someoney oungerandl eav eher , af r ai dshewasr unni ngoutt i meagewi seandIunder st ood soIwentaheadt ogi v eherassur ancebyget t i ngmar r i ed.Someofwhatshehassai dt oday i scompl et el yt r ue, Ihav en’ tbeenhel pf ulasIshoul dbeandIt hi nkIwassel f i shi n, y ouknow, i nbed.Butst i l l doesn’ tj ust i f yhowI ’ v ebeent r eat ed. I tmakesmeaskquest i onsl i ke; SHOULD IHAVEWAI TED AND WI THSTOOD THEPRESSUREFROM HERUNTI LLIWAS FI NANCI ALLYCAPABLE?I SAGEAFACTORTOHERBEHAVI NGLI KETHI STOME?IDON’ T WANTANOFFI CEJOB, DOIHAVETODI SPLEASEMYSELFTOPLEASEHER? Adamma:Don’ twor r ywe’ l lf i gur ei toutt oget her ,I ’ m not i ngdownev er yt hi ngsot hatI ’ l l suggestt her i ghtopt i onsf ory out wot ot r y . Mr sOnomeappr oachest hem Mr sOnome: Pl easecanIhav eamomentwi t hmyhusband. Mr sAdamma: Sur e( Touchest hear m ofOnomeasshewal ksaway) Mr sAdammar ecei vesacal lf r om herki ds Mr sAdamma: Hel l omybabi es, howwasschool t oday ?Shet ur nsandwal ksoutoft hehal l Mr sOnome:Iam v er ysor r ybabe.Imessedupf orsur et oday …Hel ooksupatherwi t hone eyebr owup.Okaynotj ustt oday , I ’ v ebeenmessi ngupal ot .I ’ mr eal l ysor r yf orhowIbl ur t ed t hi ngsout .I ’ m sor r y .MrandMr sOl ai t anr eal l yt al kedaboutmebei ngashi el dandcov er i ng f ory ouandIr eal i seIhav en’ tbeendoi ngt hat . Tayopul l shercl oseandembr acesher Tay o:I ’ m sor r yt oo.I ’ v ei gnor edmyr esponsi bi l i t i esandt akeny ouf orgr ant ed.Ev ent hough i t ’ sbadhow t hi ngscameoutt oday ,i t ’ sbet t ersot hatwest ar taddr essi ngt hem now.We needt ot al kmor e,pl anmor e,shar emor e.Weddi ngi sov er ,nat her ealwor kbet hi s.Ki sses herf or eheadI ’ m sor r yokay . Af t erashor twhi l e Mr sOnome:Shebit hi st her api stwast r y i ngt oseducey ouabi , Isawt hewayshewast al ki ng andt ouchi ngherhai r . MrTay o: Bur st soutl aughi ngSt opbei ngf ool i sh…She’ sacool per sonact ual l y . Mr sOnome: Yea, she’ sal r i ght . Cont i nueembr aci ng Wummishout satt henewl ywedsf r om t het abl e Wummi : Don’ tspoi l usher eoh. Thecoupl esl aughandOnomest i cksouthert ongue.Theybot hst ar twal ki ngt owar dst he t abl e Mr sSey i : ( Speaksi nYor uba)Yout haty ouhav espoi l kpat akpat aal r eady Wummi : Haaa!Mummy , wet i nIdoy ou? MrAsukwot oAmanada: I tseemsweneedt ogetat r ansl at ori nt henextsessi on Mr sSey i : Soy ourr emai ni ngt wol ov er swhatar et hei rpr obl ems? Wummi :Okay …SoGi l ber t , y eaGi l ber t , i sabusi nessman.Hesel l scar s.Hei sal sowel lt odo butnotasmuchasRi shad.I ’ v eknownhi mf orl i ke5mont hsal so. Theyal lsayRi char datonceandl aughed Wummi :So…herl aught ersl owsdownhert houghtpr ocessonwhatnextt osay…So,yea he’ sokay ,doesn’ tat t endchur chof t ent houghbutbel i ev est her ei sGod…t wot hi ngsar eout ofpl acef orme. Onedaywewer et al ki ngaboutsexual st uf fandt henextt hi nghesai di s, hel i kesAnal Sex. Mr sSey i : Ki ni Anal Sex? Ever yonei sl ooki ngatanot herpl acei not hert oavoi dexpl ai ni ng.Wummiusesi tas oppor t uni t yf orhert oher sel fagl assofj ui ce MrShi nawhi sper si nt ohi swi f e’ sear s Mr sSeyiscr eamsaaaaahandsaysi nYor uba“ Not hi ngshewi l lnotheari nt hi swor l d, Ol uwaO”Haaa!I nt heAnus?!Herhusbandcover shermout h Shet ur nspausesandt ur nst oherhusbandandsays Mr sSey i :Baba, howdi dy ouknowwhati tmeans? Hi seyesexpandedandqui ckl yf acesWummiandt el l shert ocont i nueherst or y,i gnor i ng t hegl ar ef r om hi swi f e’ seyes. Wummi :Thesecondt hi ngi swhenImethi m, It ol dhi m al laboutmypast .Butev er yt i mewe hav eanar gument , hewi l luset hoseIt ol dhi m aboutmeagai nstme…I tr eal l yhur t swhenhe doesi t .Heapol ogi esl at erbuthedoesi tt henextt i mewhent heoppor t uni t yar i ses. Amanada:Yea,t hatcanbepai nf ul .Imeandon’ tt heyuset hei rheadst ot hi nkt hat ,t hi sl ady t ol dmeabouther sel fbyher sel f .I fshedi dn’ tt el lme, Iwoul dnev erhav eknown.I t ’ sbecause shecar edabouty oushet ol dy ouabouther sel f .Yout henuset hatsamet r ustandspi ti ton herf ace.Notcool . Wummi :Yes,i t ’ st r ul yt hepar tIhat eabouthi m.Iwonderi fhewi l lal way sbet hi sv er bal l y abusi v et owar dsme. Sot hequest i onsIaskmy sel faboutGi l ber t ; SHOULD IBE WI TH A GUY WHO LI KES ANAL SEX?I S THERE ANYTHI NG BAD I N EXPLORI NG OTHER TYPESOFSEXUALPLEASURE?I SI TOKAYFOR METO BEWI TH SOMEONEWHO EMOTI ONALLYAND VERBALLYABUSEMEEVEN THOUGH HE’ SNOT PHYSI CALLYABUSI VE?BECAUSEHEGOESTO CHURCH EVERYOTHER DAYDOESI T MEANHEWI LLBEANUNFI THUSBAND? Chi omaspeci f i cal l ysaysHmmm Mr sSey i : Sohav ey ousl eptwi t hGi l ber t ? Wummisuddenl yst ar t sdr i nki ngt hej ui ce.Ever yonepat i ent l ywai t i ngf orhert of i ni shso t hatsheanswer s.Shef i ni shesandr esponds Wummi : Yousay … Ever yone st ar t s comment i ng,some ar el aughi ng,Mr s Seyii sf l oggi ng her wi t h handker chi eforser vi et t e,wehearWummisayf ai nt l yi nt hebackgr oundt hati twasa mi st ake.Fadeout Wummi :Thent hel astpr ospect i v ehusbandmat er i ali sChr i s.He' smybestf r i end.Hei sa wr i t er / edi t or .Hedoesn' thav eaj obbuthedoest r yt omakeendsmeet .He' saper f ect gent l eman.Checksuponme,gi v esmegr eatadv i ces.Pol i t et opeopl e.Hel ov esme,He l ov esGod. . .Hel ov esGodal ot .Ver yCool , Cal m &Composedguy . Wehav ebeenf r i endssi nceUni v er si t y .Hewast hei nt el l i gentgent l emanal lt hegi r l swant ed t odat ebuthewassooof ocusedonhi sbooks,hedi dn’ thav et i mef ort hem…orme.When wegotoutofschoolher ev eal edhowhef el taboutmesoi twasj usteasyt of l owsi ncewe al r eadyhadaconnect i on.Hedoesn’ tshoutonme,hehel pssuppor tmydr eams,l ov esme f orwhoIam,doesn’ tpr essur i semeorcompelmet obesomebodyel se.He’ sar eal l ygood per son, t her e’ sal otofadv ant agebei ngwi t hhi m. Chi oma: Buuut ? Wummi : Howev er , acoupl eoft hi ngsspr ungupt hatI ’ m notcomf or t abl ewi t h… Idonothav eapr obl em pay i ngf orst uf f , i nf actt hat ’ soneoft het hi ngshel ov esaboutme.I shar et hebi l lwi t hhi m orsomet i meshandl et hebi l lasawhol e.Butr ecent l y ,i t ’ sst ar t i ngt o seem l i ket her esponsi bi l i t yi sshi f t i ngt omewi t houtev enconsi der i ngi fIhav eorwantt o payf orst uf f .Doy ouget ? “ Wummipl easebuyme1500cr edi t …Wummit hatI cecr eam y ou’ r ebuy i ng,buyf ort wo… Wummiy ouwi l lpayf ort hemov i esandI ’ l lpayf ort hepopcor n…Imeancommon, l etmebe t heonet osayI ’ l l payf orwhat , t hat ’ si fIwantt opay . Iknow he doesn’ thav eal otbutt hen wow me wi t hi ny ourmeansand show some r esponsi bi l i t y . MrAsukwo: YesIagr eewi t hy ou. Wummi :ThesecondI ssuei s…andt hi sonedeygi v emesl eepl essni ght .Seewear ebot h bor nagai nandIact ual l ydon’ twantt osl eepwi t hhi m…Butehnnn! . . .Howwi l laguybewi t h meandnotki ssmeonmymout hf orgoodnesssake…bi konu…ol uwaoh.Ihav enotev en got t encl oseenought oconf i r mi fhehasa( gest ur eswi t hr ai si ngherf i standot hersi l l y gest ur es/ comment sdepi ct i ngahar don) . Mr sSeyiopenshereyesandunconsci ousl yst ar t scar r yi ngherhandst owar dsherbr east s. Chi oma: Wi t hasubt l eIdon’ tcar eat t i t ude.Aner ect i on.Youcansayt haty ouknow. Wummi :Yes,‘ t hat ’ .Icanatl eastr el axandknow I ’ m maki ngi mpact .I ’ v ewonder edi fhe’ s okaydownt her e. Mr sSeyiwhi sper st oherhusband…Okomiwhi chwor l dar ewei n? Wummi :Hesay she’ sokayt hathedoesn’ tj ustwantust omakemi st akeofhav i ngsex.I guessIhav et ot r usthi swor dsandhangon…That ’ si fImar r yhi m.Thent hel astt hi ngi s…He i sAS…andI ’ m al soAS…Il ov et hi sboy , f r om t hem al l , Il ov ehi m most . Mymum wi l lnotbehappyi fImar r yhi m.He’ snotr i ch,hel acksi nasol i dpr of essi on accor di ngt oher . So, asusual , myt hought s I SI TOKAYTO MARRYAMAN WHO I SFI NANCI ALLYDEPENDENTON ME?SHOULD I MARRYSOMEONEMYFAMI LYI SNOTHAPPYWI THBECAUSETHEYMAYDESPI SEHI M? I SI TOKAYTOFI NDOUTBYANYMEANSNECESSARYI FMYMANCANGETANERECTI ON BEFOREWEGETMARRI ED?SHOULDIMARRYAN ASCARRI ERI RRESPECTI VEOFTHE CONSEQUENCESTHATCOULDBRI NG? Amanada:Yourquest i onsr eal l yneedanswer sbutI ’ mr oot i ngf orChr i s.Het r eat sy ouwel l despi t ehi sl apses. ButMummy , whyar ey ouanddaddyher e? MrandMr sOl ai t anl ookateachot her MrShi na: Wel l , ouri ssuei saboutourchi l dr enput t i ngast r ai nonus. Mywi f ei sv er ycr i t i cal aboutpeopl easy oumi ghthav eal r eadygat her ed. Chi oma: umm hmm Mr sSeyieyesher MrShi na:OurSongotal adypr egnantandmadehert ohav eanabor t i on.I twasacl osecal l f ort hegi r l . I thascausedal otofst r ai nonourr el at i onshi pwi t ht heboy .Hi smum t ol dhi m hemust mar r yt hegi r landhei sr ef usi ng.Shehascal l edhi m al lsor t sofnames,t ot hepoi nthel ef t t hehouse.Lef tschool . Shehasbl amedmef ornotenf or ci ngenoughdi sci pl i ne,wehav ear gued.Thehousei sabi t t enseandwear ej ustwonder i nghowbestt ohandl et hesi t uat i on. Mr sAdammaanswer sf r om behi nd Mr sAdamma:Ther e’ sapr ogr am cal l ed“ Par ent i ngwi t hGr ace”y oushoul dgett het apeand l i st ent oi t .I ’ l l gi v ey oudi r ect i onsonhowt ogeti t . Al r i ghtl et ’ scomebackt ot heci r cl e, we’ v el ostal otoft i me. I naudi bl yshoweachandev er yper sonwhohadnott ol dt hei rst or yt oMr sAdamma’ shear i ng t al k.Show r esponsesf r om peopl e.Laught er ,at t ent i onandot herexpr essi ons.Show t he t her api stpenni ngi tdown. Mr sAdamma:SoIl i ket hef l ow t hi sr oundoft al kst ook.Al otofpr ogr esscancomef r om under st andi ngoneanot her . Ihav et akennot esandwoul dnowanswery ourquest i onsandsuggestr emedi es. PhoneAl ar m goesof f . Wow, t i mehasgone.I ’ m sor r ywehav et ost opher et oday . Ever ybodycompl ai ni ngt hati tshoul dcont i nue. Adamma:I ’ m sor r ybutIal sohav eaf ami l yt ot akecar eof .Butournextmeet i ngwi l lbeat Gr acel and, Gr acev i l l eChr i st i anCent er .Al l y ouranswer sandmor ewi l l beanswer ed. Theyal l gr eeteachot her .Exchangenumber s. Fadet obl ur Anyot heri nf or mat i onaboutt hepr ogr am Si ngl esandMar r i edshoul dbeaddedher e.