HOW TO GET A WESTERN BOYFRIEND
Hi all!
Marrying western men is a big phenomena in Asia, particularly in South-east Asia. Many girls from Thailand, Philippines and Indonesia are looking to marry westerners. The thoughts that westerners are more handsome and they got more money than the local men make those girls willing to do anything to get a western husband. Sometimes they even try to “steal” another woman’s husband, hoping that the western man would leave his wife and marry the younger girl. This kind of girl is called “bule hunter” in Indonesia, or “westerner hunter” in other parts of the world.
Also, many girls have asked me how I could meet my western husband, if my husband has any single friend that can be matched with them, how I dealed with the datings and get him to marry me.
One thing that these girls don’t understand is, westerners are just like any men. They make take pretty young girls for their pleasure only, but they want more for a wife. The high-educated westerners would want a graceful, smart and educated wife, so the wife can be a partner in their life, and can engange in discussions about his work or business in Asia.
If you want to marry the high-educated westerners, you must improve yourself. Many westerners would take a young wife for his sexual pleasure and child-bearing only, but those are usually old retired westerners who want to have orgy party everyday. If you are looking for high-educated westerners who see you as their life partners and not just a sex doll, these are the basic points of self-improvements that you can try to do in your spare time:
1. Be yourself
Do not ever want to change yourself into another person only for a man, no matter what his race and skin color is, unless he asks you to change into a better person.
Changing into a better person, for example: you have the habit of getting very emotional and angry so quickly without learning the situation first, and your man asks you to change that habit.
Changing you into another person, for example: your man suddenly asks you to change yourdaily appearance. If everyday you like to wear sneakers +jeans + shit or t-shirt + natural make-up, now your man asks your to wear dress + high heels + full make-up + up-doing your hair everyday. If these things make you uncomfortable and kill your own personality, it means he’s asking you to become another person and you will suffer more and more.
2. Read more books, browse the internet, and travelling to update your knowledge
I really don’t understand what’s inside the head of a westerner hunter, like they have the programmed small talks like the weather today, their family travel to another country, etc. They really think that westerners are only looking for their sexy bodies. Instead of complaining about the weather, much better if they find better topics of global warming and its effects to daily weather. Or they can talk about the cultures of their native origin. Many westerners who travel to Asia are actually looking for the rich cultures, which are different from one region to another. I am from Indonesia, and there are more than 300 ethnic groups with different lanuanges and cultures, and when westerners come to Indonesia, they are primarily really looking to witness the cultures, not just witnessing sexy bodies.
Girls who like travelling are interesting too, because girls who like travelling usually learn about the cultures and etiquettes of the countries / provinces that they ever visited. When you are going to some ancient place, for example Borrobudur Temple, please learn a bit of its history (it was built in the VIII century AD by Syailendra dynasty). If you tell this to a westerner when you are talking about Borrobudur Temple, atleast the westerner will count on you because you are learning your own nation’s history. Remember, there's a proverb saying " a great nation is a nation who values its history”.
If you ever study in universities or colleges, it’s adding the value, expecialy if you are really competent in your study programmes (not just passing the years in the college / university). Westerners (and men in general) like smart and educated girls who can discuss about anything.
If you show that you got high-value (you are educated, smart, open minded, got manners and etiquettes), the westerners (and other men) who will approach you will be men who got high’value too. If you see (or know) a westerner who’s willing to take an uneducated “westerner hunter” out, it means the westerner also got low-value. He’s not educated and he’s just looking for sex.
3. Get a steady job and prositive hobbies
Westerners and other races will be willing to get more serious with a girl who got steady job. It doesn’t mean they are scared that the girl will take away all their cash, but a girl who get steady job is usually more open-minded and she values herself more, especially if she loves her job.
Positive hobbies, for examples: gardening, travelling, cooking, home decoration, reading, take care of pets, handicrafts, painting, writing, yoga, dancing, etc.
If you like to gossip and shopping (especially shopping using a man’s credit card and money), it’s included in negative hobby... don’t make it into a habit.
Everybody should have atleast 1 positive hobby. Doing your hobby can reduce a lot of stress, and show others that we have more skills than random people. Doing your hobby is included in “me time”, which shows other that you have something to do oither than touching your smartphones all the time and hunting western men in dating sites. You can also make business based on your hobbies, such as food catering, photography, selling organic vegetables, etc. Girls ho has job and positive hobbies are high-valued.
4. Learn etiquettes and the norms of every place you’re going
Wherever we stay or live, every region has its own norms, etiquettes and cultures. This one is especially true in Indonesia. For example, if you are staying in Aceh Province which uses Syaria Law, do not wear miniskirts in public places (except in your own hotel room or house). Although you are not muslim, you still have to respect and follow their rules. If you are travelling to Aceh (or other regions using Syaria Law), wear trousers, long jeans or maxi skirt that cover atleast 7/8 part of your legs. Wear loose blouses, t-shirt and shirts with sleeves that cover your upper arms. If you follow their rules, they will respect you.
Do not, in any circumstances, because you are very desperate of getting a westerner boyfriend/ husband, you just get over a westerner and make up with him, no matter he is married or not, in ways that make everyone else throws up at you. If you keep following the norms and etiquettes, all the westerners (and men in general) will respect you.
If you just meet a westerner once, then sleep with him and in the next day you ask him to accompany you shopping and ask him to buy you expensive things, they will think you are a hooker.
5. Get well-groomed
Getting well-groomed means you look good and clean, not about using full make-up everyday, though it doesn’t hurt if you like to do it. Getting well-groomed is all about you maintain your health and appearance, such as eating healthy foods, excercising regularly, showering, brushing teeth and shampooing regularly, putting lotions on your skin regularly, and taking care of your nails. If you don’t like to do manicure-pedicure, just clip or trim the nails every week so they look good and well-maintained.
Being well-groomed means you are really healthy both physically and mentally, and shows everybody that you love yourself.
Well, lastly, keep in mind that westerners are human too. If you start doing self-improvement like the points above, you will attract more men, westerners or other races.