Cee Fuerte

ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Topic: Confidence and Sex TITLE: Does A Womanʼs Weight Affect Sex? rte Are you unhappy in the bedroom? If your sex encounters do not make you happy, there are a few reasons that may be causing this. There are lots of things you can think about, but could it be because of your weight? If you are obese or overweight, it is likely this! It may be judgmental and discriminating to say that overweight women cannot be happy in the bedroom or cannot make a man happy. But if you are someone whose sex life is affected by your weight, think about this for a second. What could be different in the bedroom if you lose weight? Would anything change? Will sex be better? ue The answer is not the same for every one, I know. The impact of weight loss on your sex life will depend on you, your partner and your personal situation. But why do many women believe that weight loss can result to better sex? Hereʼs why: eF 1. Increase in self confidence. Many women make the mistake of thinking that it was their slim figure that improved their bedroom encounters. But the real reason is that women who lose weight do see an increase in self confidence. This extra esteem makes them go all the way in bed, thus both partners enjoy the intimacy better. It means that it may be the same ole sex you have been doing all these years, but it just feels better now because you feel “sexier” and more beautiful with your slim figure. 2. Ability to experiment. Another juice added to the sex life when the woman loses weight is her ability to experiment new things in the bedroom. The key to keeping the relationship “hot” is experimentation. Has your heavy weight kept you from trying new positions or from being creative? If so, now is your time to shine! Flex those muscles and show him what youʼre made of! Ce 3. Freedom to show off. Letʼs accept it... Women can wear anything (or even nothing!) when she is confident of how she looks! When you are in your ideal body weight, you have the confidence to wear sexy lingerie, or a full blown costume... or even have sex with all the lights on. Losing weight can do wonders for your relationship, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Men are visual. Beauty, sexy, hot -- these turn them on! Yes, your partner most likely adores you now as you are, but he will worship you more when he discovers that you want to lose weight and be sexier for him. There is always something attractive about women who take steps to better themselves. Your husband will not only be proud of you, but will be so turned on that your bed will always be hot! *Word Count: 470 ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Topic: Intimacy rte TITLE: Watch Out For These Damaging Signs Are you in a relationship? If you are, are you happy with your sex life? Is your partner happy and satisfied with your intimate moments? It cannot be discounted that it is important to make sure you and your partner get along well, have a good time together, and do not argue, etc, etc... BUT intimacy is equally important and should not be ignored. ue If you see the following signs happening with you and your partner, it is about time you take a serious thought on taking major steps for improvement. ::: Seldom to Zero Sex Life If you are no longer having sex or if you are doing it once in a blue moon, something is definitely wrong. Not being intimate with your partner is a good sign that your sex life could use a makeover. It is important to determine why you and your partner are not being intimate. Is something getting in the way? Determining the route of your problem is the best way to fix it. eF If you do have sex, how often do you have it? Not enough intimacy with your partner is another sign that your sex life may need improvement. How often is the appropriate?, you may ask... It depends on a number of factors, like your children, your work schedule, your healthy, etc. With that said, learn how to make time for intimacy, as it is an important component of having a healthy and happy relationship. Ce ::: Dull and Boring Sex One other common sign that your intimacy may need improvement is if your love making is dull, boring, and no longer exciting. If it becomes like a chore to you or it seems like a responsibility that you must perform, you need to take serious thought. To have a happy and healthy relationship, it is not only important to keep the intimacy, but you should keep your sec life exciting and something you both will look forward to. You should get excited about going to the bedroom with your partner and you should end the event satisfied. ::: Emotional Distance If you and your partner are getting cold towards each other, it could be a sign that your sex life needs to improve. Why? As previously stated, intimacy is a very important component of a healthy relationship. Although everything does not revolve around sex, it is an important part of the partnership. If as a couple you are growing distant, consider using the bedroom to make improvements. You may end up seeing the rest of your relationship properly fall into place. If any of the above mentioned signs or situations apply to you, your love life and your sex life, you may need to make a few steps towards positive changes. The good news is that it is easy and very possible to go about doing so. If you are too busy and canʼt seem to find the time to be intimate with your partner, make time, even if you must get up earlier or stay up later. If your sexual encounters are boring and dull, try experimenting. The use of sex toys or a new position may just be what your relationship needs. *Word Count 529 ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Topic: Sex and Relationship TITLE: Uh-Oh, Now Is NOT The Time For Sex! rte I can tell you one thing for sure: In life, timing is everything... Indeed! Similarly, sexual activity is as much about WHEN it is done as it is about HOW it is done. When youʼre in the hot moment with your partner, with hormones and emotions firing at full cylinder, chances are you may have hit the wrong time and blow it altogether. With “right timing” in mind, Iʼve made a checklist of when you should hold off on sex for the time being. ue Keep these in mind and I can almost guarantee a better sexual relationship for you and your partner. eF 1. When youʼre not ready, donʼt do it. Although this is the most important factor in a sexual activity, it is unfortunately the most overlooked. Make sure you both want it and you are mentally prepared to have a sexual relationship. Foreplay can take your emotions and hormones in an awesome roller coaster ride that can easily lead you to something deeper. Anything new and exciting creates eagerness to dive in and explore. But it is important that you are emotionally and sexually ready for it. If not, there is nothing wrong with holding off on sex until you are completely prepared; otherwise, you will have regrets after youʼve done it. Sex will be much better when you are both sure, confident and in control. It will make the experience more fun. Ce 2. When your partner gives the impression that they are not ready, donʼt do it. One of the most important thing in any relationship is communication. It may not be done verbally all the time, sometimes your partner communicates through actions and expressions. So while the other party may not say anything, try to read their body language during foreplay and sense if they are ready to go all the way. If you get the feeling that your partner is tensed or nervous, perhaps you should step on the brakes and wait for the right moment. Better yet, ask them lovingly. There is nothing wrong with communicating. Communication is sexy; it is a nice way to bond and learn more about each other. 3. If you have not yet discussed safe sex or your boundaries, donʼt do it. This important factor is often overlooked and can lead to big time regrets. If you have not known the person that long, you may want to know about their sexual history. Has the person been checked for STDs or HIV? Have they had unprotected sex in the past? How many sex partners did they have in the past? These may be hard questions, but it is possible to ask when done the right way. It makes you look smart and responsible, which can be very attractive to your partner... Plus, it keeps you both safe :) 4. If neither of you has a condom, donʼt do it. Make sure you have protection. Sometimes it is easy to forget about this at the heat of the moment. But remember, safe is better than sorry. Mutual respect and trust are very important in a healthy relationship. You ought to protect each other from future regrets. So, when if you are in any of the four situations listed above, it is worth your while to step back for a minute and get off the heat. There is always a perfect time for everything. When it is that, it will be the best experience. *Word Count: 581 ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Topic: Lifestyle, Sex, Relationship I love spontaneity! rte TITLE: Spontaneity: The Key to Improving Your Sex Life Sex is an adventure; and putting it inside a box with specific doʼs and dontʼs is plain boring. No wonder many couples encounter relationship issues related to sex. Most often, the interest in the bedroom has died down because the activity is almost predictable. You both memorize what will happen next. Spontaneity is absent. ue When you are spontaneous, it often increases interest and satisfaction. Unfortunately, it is easier said than done. If you are having a hard time being spontaneous with your partner, here are some helpful tips. eF 1. Initiate Do not wait for your partner to get sex started. Why wait? You shouldnʼt! As a party to the activity, you have every right and freedom to make the first move. You just donʼt know, but your partner may be hoping for you to kick it off. It will make them feel loved and appreciated if they donʼt always have to do it first, as if they have an obligation to do it. They will feel desirable and sexy when you call the shots... And it will increase their sex drive. 2. Talk Dirty Couples who have been in a relationship for quite a long time often come to a point where sex is like a ritual. They go wild and lust for it; and then wham! they just want to get it done, period! Why donʼt you try to be creative and verbalize the fire inside you? Talk dirty!... And I mean, dirty! It just drives your mate crazy when you do it. Say those dirty words they long to hear and you will see how hot your sex will become. Ce 3. Sex Chat/ Sex Text Foreplay can happen the whole day. One of the creative ways to be spontaneous is by sending sexy and seductive messages through your cellphone (or facebook, if you are online). It can create a sexual desire on you both and when you come home at the end of the day, you are just about ready to jump on the shower and finish it off. 4. Change Location Another way to be spontaneous with your partner is having sex somewhere other than your usual bed or bedroom. It can be in the kitchen, the shower, on the table, couch, closet or on the floor... The change of location can trigger some hot nerve in your partner and the end result will be more pleasure. 5. New Position It is always fun and spontaneous to try out new sexual positions. New things can always freshen up a relationship. It will also allow you to tread on new territories you have never tried before, and the adventure can turn out as a really great sex experience. 6. Surprises You can also get intimate outside of the home. Try surprising your partner. You can do this by booking a night at a hotel downtown or a plane flight out of town for a refreshing getaway. Choose a hotel that has romantic rooms, or a swimming pool, or a hot tub. ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Remember not to tell your partner about your plans until you are ready to leave, as being spontaneous involves surprising them. rte 7. Experiment There are many other different ways to be spontaneous in your sex life. You can experiment on new things, like sex toys, role-playing, adult videos, etc. There are a number of different options if you are looking to experiment in the bedroom. Whatever way you choose to spice things up in the bedroom, be sure to use your best judgment. And be certain that your mate is a ready and willing participant. *Word Count: 660 Topic: Sex and Health ue As you can see, there are a many different ways to move beyond the same ole sex, and use spontaneity as a way to improve your relationship, both inside and outside of the bedroom. What are you waiting for? Get started today? Your mate will appreciate your quick thinking. TITLE: Herbal Remedies For Low Libido eF Men and women experience low sex drive for numerous reasons. It can be nervous disorders, hormonal imbalance, endocrine disorders, fatigue, nutritional deficiencies and other factors. A healthy sex drive is a human beingʼs natural makeup, thus if you have low libido, it is important to know what is causing it. The doctor may be able to assist you, or you can try the natural remedies available. Ce Note that anything that contributes to good health can also contribute to your sex drive. So it is important to make sure that you exercise regularly, have proper and balanced diet with lots of veggies. You should avoid high sugar and starchy foods as they are said to lower sex drive. Besides these activities, you can also check out these herbal remedies that contribute to increase libido. These are natural herbs that can liven up your mood, make you feel and look better and raise your energy levels. And because they are natural, there is very little to no risk of any adverse side effects that over the counter medications may have. They range from general aphrodisiacs to herbs containing nutrients that help improve your overall health in time. Ginkgo - Boosts energy and increases blood circulation in the genital area, making arousal easier and improving the sensation during sexual intercourse. St. Johns Wort - Treats depression and improves the overall well-being; also effective in treating insomnia which can be a cause of low sex drive. Sarsaparilla - Contains the hormones testosterone and progesterone; promotes glandular balance; excellent blood purifier; treats liver disorders (normal liver function is important to sex drive). ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Horny Goat Weed - Affects cortisol levels (the main stress hormones in the body) and increases sexual desire and performance in both men and women. rte Passion flower - Relaxes the mind and body; helps the body cope with stress, which is one of the biggest factors in low sex drive, particularly in women. Scents like ylang ylang, lavender, sandalwood, and jasmine also helps you relax, lifts your mood and gently aids in increasing sexual desire. *Word Count: 371 Topic: Dating ue Additionally, certain vitamins and nutrients are important to a healthy sex drive, including B Complex, Zinc, vitamin C, vitamin E and fish oils. eF TITLE: Love Too Deep, Too Fast Can Be Dangerous Have you fallen head over heels in love with someone only to learn later that theyʼre not in the same place as you are emotionally? This is a common story that often leads to heartbreak and misery. You think you found Miss Right or Prince Charming, but to them it is not quite there yet. If you are not moving at the same speed or not going towards the same direction, you should see the danger signs up. It can bring you feelings of insecurity and them, pressure. Both of these danger signs can be enough to break down a relationship before it even begun. Ce When starting to date, one of the things to prepare yourself is that not everyone feels the same way at the same time. You cannot expect your partner to fall in love at the same rate as you. The count has been far too many, of relationships that end because one person has deep feelings of love and devotion and starts talking about wedding plans, while the other is still at the stage of trying to make sense if he or she is feeling anything special. To avoid the heartbreak and misery, give love time. Before giving in to emotional outburst and insist on your partner loving you back, give it time. Do fun things together that will allow you to see your unique qualities. With enough time and space, your partner will appreciate you more and the feelings will develop more freely. Lack of synchronicity can only lead to arguments and feelings of rejection. The reality is, you're not being rejected; you're simply dealing with someone who may have other issues to face before allowing feelings of love to come to the surface. These issues could even bring more trouble to your relationship if you rush things. The happiest relationships involve mutual love, respect and room for each other to grow. *Word Count: 331 ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Topic: Online Dating TITLE: Finding Love Online rte The very idea of online dating scare off many people. To them, it seems dangerous, impersonal and they think that it should only be for those who cannot get a date any other way. With these assumptions, it is no wonder why many singles are still wary to give internet dating a chance. But with internet media currently making waves, more and more people are discovering the truth. People make business online; they buy and sell stuff; they find old friends and family they never would otherwise; they meet new people everyday; everyone does just about anything with the use of the internet. Why not finding love? ue If you have been staying away from internet dating because of fear, you are not alone. But if you are serious about finding love and are not having success through any of the known traditional ways, you might want to reconsider. Many people have succeeded at it, me being one of them. eF True... hundreds or even thousands find the love of their life online. It proves the fact that love can happen anywhere anytime, even in the most unexpected places and situations. It is not bound by space, distance and time. In fact, as online dating is becoming more and more popular, it is harder for some to stay away from it. Know the Truth Yourself If you are interested in internet dating but are skeptical about it, the best course is to investigate it yourself. Make a due diligence by going deeper, evaluate your own assumptions and find the answers first hand. Who knows, while doing so, you will bump into someone special? Just saying... Talk to the Subjects Ce One of the best ways to find out more facts about online dating it to ask those who have tried it. Whether they succeeded at it or not, they are the best person who can answer your questions. Most likely, you know three or four people who have at least tried one of the dating sites and have communicated with some “prospects”. You may also want to talk to someone who met their significant other or spouse online. These are the one youʼd want to talk to. To get an accurate picture of what dating online means, make sure you talk to more than one person. Singling out someone can result to an incomplete, biased and uninformed decision. You should strive to get a well-rounded point of view on the matter. Just one good or bad comment might color your view of internet dating inaccurately. Do Your Own Research Talking to people who have dated online is not enough; you need to do some reading on the subject. There are many great articles and eBooks online that can be especially helpful. Ask Advise ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Decide For Yourself rte After you have done your due diligence of investigating, get the opinion of people who genuinely care about you, like close friends and family, people who have your best interest in mind and would be able to give you sound, unbiased, honest and loving advise. They may have differing ideas, but note that you will only use these opinions to help you decide better, whether or not to pursue online dating. *Word Count: 639 Topic: Lifestyle, Relationship ue Above everything else, make an informed decision for yourself. Do not let the ideas of other people influence your opinion and decision about internet dating. The different ideas you have researched or heard are bits and pieces that make up a good decision. In the end, it is you who will be in the relationship. So as long as you are sure of your choice and happy with it, it doesnʼt matter what anyone else thinks. Just go for it! After all, it is better to have tried and lost, than never to have tried at all. eF TITLE: Handling Fear Issues in a Relationship By definition, fear is “a sense of dread about the unknown, fueled by the imagination, giving you all sorts of worst-case-scenario images about what might go wrong.” There are couples who remain in a relationship because of fear. They are scared of being alone, of what it means to lose someone. Or they are afraid of financial instability once they are left by themselves. Or they are fearful of what their family and friends would say. Or simply, they are afraid of themselves, what they would become when the relationship ends. Ce If you are in this type of relationship, then the feeling of fear alone should be a signal that you are in the wrong relationship. But it looks like you are not ready to move on as an independent adult? Things can be a little different if your fear is based on a more serious psychological issues like physical or emotional abuse. Many people donʼt leave a relationship because they fear what the other person would to to them. Their partner may have all kinds of threats to them -- that they will hunt them down and hurt them, or worst, that the partner will commit suicide! Okay, how do you move forward in this kind of relationship? First of all, you need to understand why you are living in fear in this relationship. Why are you scared of leaving? Why are you scared of your partner? Once you have sorted out why you are in fear, it is time to look closely at the reasons why you are staying. If you truly love the person and care about your relationship, you must sort through your anxiety and uncover the root of your fear problem. However, if your partner is threatening or abusive; or has anger management issues, you may need to ask yourself, what kind of person loves this way? Is this the type of love you ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte want or deserve? Is this the kind of person you can live with? Is the the situation you want to stay stuck? If you are so afraid of someone that you are incapable of leaving, then perhaps you should question yourself whether there is love in your relationship at all. rte These threats are emotional blackmails that damage trust, respect and future of a relationship, and must be a sure sign of ending it. You donʼt even have to think twice. If your partner can blackmail you, what makes you think they genuinely care about you? Honest communication about your feelings is a good step towards mending your fearissues, but only you can know for sure if the relationship is worth saving in these circumstances. *Word Count: 489 Topic: Lifestyle, Relationship ue A healthy, strong relationship must involve mutual love, trust and respect. These genuine feelings can only survive in a relationship that has no fear of your partner or what they might do to you. eF TITLE: Incompatibility: Is It An Issue? When you meet someone for the first time, they may seem like the perfect one for the type of partner youʼve been looking for: romantic, sweet, funny, sensitive... the list can go on. Give it a few weeks or months, some changes start to show and the little differences might make you start to realize that your partner is not the person you thought they were at all. Ce Do not be surprised. Almost always, everyone dons their best behavior on the first meeting. They will show you their pleasant attributes and good traits. However, when two people become comfortable and familiar with each other, they unconsciously fall into their real personalities. Take note, this is not always a bad thing. You might even find yourself liking the the “real” person more, after they drop the pretense. However, you may not like the stranger who emerged at all. It really depends. Incompatibility does not necessarily mean that you have different hobbies or interests. It could mean you have different goals and objectives in life or different religious beliefs or any number of things that are important to you. Also, being incompatible does not mean the relationship has to end, but there will be some things that need to be sorted and addressed. Only you can tell the level of incompatibility you and your partner have. Some couples agree to be tolerant of each other's values, beliefs or goals. Other couples are willing to “convert” and make the change to one or the other person's way of thinking. There may be other much deeper matters to overcome. Issues like if your partner does not want any kids, and you want five, plus a dog! Or if your partner is into sexual fantasies that involve gummy bears and rubber chickens - and other array of costumes and props - and you just canʼt even begin to imagine yourself going there! ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Another deep incompatibility issue is if your partner may have a problem with physical abuse, substance abuse or other psychological issues you donʼt want in your life. *Word Count: 424 Topic: Lifestyle, Marriage, Relationship ue TITLE: Sweetening a Soured Marriage rte Now you can see clearly that incompatibility on some issues does not mean the relationship has to end. You may just simply need to sit down with your partner and work on communicating your preferences and needs to each other. However, when deeper issues are involved, it may be time to ask whether you are happy to cross the line and compromise your own values for the sake of your relationship. You cannot just close your eyes to your marriage and stop paying attention to it. Just like anything in life, if you stop attending to it, it will stop functioning correctly. Marriage is work, and it requires effort on both parties. Just as your car needs regular maintenance, your marriage needs regular tune up to keep it running. eF A crush or puppy love feelings can disappear overnight, but a marriage does not fall apart that easily and quickly. When a marriage has turned sour, it is a result of small bits and pieces happening daily that compound over time. It may have started with a small argument, then another, and yet another... until things got worse and worse. Both spouses get easily upset about more and more things, even the small ones. Communication spirals downwards until it totally ceases. Most times, the couple lives in a state of power struggles and heated arguments. One small word can trigger an entire argument. Ce A soured marriage is a result of compounding situations over time. All these times, there were many opportunities to make the union more satisfying and healthy. Unfortunately, many couples spend no time trying to fix a soured relationship. They seem contented with being miserable; and remain comfortable with the bad state of denial over what is really happening. They avoid thinking about their real problems, yet hope for the best... But the hard truth is, problems that don't get worked on are never solved... never! If your marriage is in this place, you need some serious relationship medicine. Thing is, a car is not a relationship, your marriage is. Stop spending time keeping the car in good shape with gas, oil changes and maintenance, rather spend more time working things out with your spouse. Remember that no matter how much time and money you spend with your car, your marriage is far more expensive! Go back to the time when the two of you first got together and spent time and emotional energy to bond and become close. You shared your feelings, thoughts and experiences; you had secrets that only both of you know of. Over the years, couples become guilty of taking their marriage for granted and have stopped nurturing it. They have so many reasons -- pressing responsibilities, children, job, housework to tend to. And oh yes, and a car to take care of! However, you owe it to yourself and your spouse (and your kids, if you have) to give your marriage special care. While you need to take care of all the other adult responsibilities of life, you also need to live a balanced life and be nourished as a person. That is where ORIGINAL ARTICLES by Cee Fuerte Ce eF ue *Word Count: 496 rte marriage relationship comes in; the things that keep you and your mate bonded together keep you sane. If you fail to do this, you will spend a lot more energy, emotions, time and money breaking up and starting over again.