Bethany S Shepard

A lot of people nowadays have a difficult time figuring out if they are an introvert of an extrovert. Is there a third type? If you’re having trouble figuring out if you are an introvert or extrovert, it might be that you are an ambivert. Ambiverts are people who have extraverted and introverted tendencies. In this article, we will discuss 10 reasons you may be an ambivert. Have you always been wondering how to describe yourself? Keep reading until the end. Reason number 10 is the most powerful aspect of the ambivert personality, and it will make you feel at home. Here are the 10 signs that you may be an ambivert 1. If you have both introverted and extroverted traits As mentioned before, ambiverts find themselves resonating with both introverted traits and extroverted traits. When they go to group events, they feel at ease while socializing with others. It is not an issue for them. They get their friends drinks, enjoy dancing, share their ideas, and exchange ideas they might be interested in. However, at a certain point, they feel the need to retract in order to regenerate their energy. For ambiverts, spending some time with themselves is as important as socializing and being with groups of people. They might be very outgoing in a supermarket one day, asking about products and prices, and then be very quiet while having lunch with friends, not feeling the need to socialize anymore. Sometimes, ambiverts will think about an action a couple of times before executing it, and other times, they intuitively make a choice and execute it. Ambiverts are considered to be very good social chameleons. That brings us to the second reason you may be an ambivert. 2. If you are friends with both introverts and extroverts. In relationships with others, ambiverts can be very understanding. Due to their innate mix of introversion and extroversion, they are comfortable around a wide range of different personalities. Summoning qualities from both sides comes easy to them, therefore they are good at creating a sense of connection, and naturals when it comes to mirroring. As a result, ambiverts often end up having friends on both sides, and they love it. However, in modern society this trait is not very welcome; people tend to see someone with the ability to blend in with others, by instinctively regulating their behavior, as inauthentic or fake. But the truth is, there is a good deal of authenticity in being able to resonate with everybody. It is a unique trait in itself. One must not fear a person with great social skills, but simply recognize that it comes mostly from an intention of being exactly what the other person needs, to feel safe and understood. 3. If you have a great balance between listening and talking in a conversation Ambiverts know when to lend an ear and when to share their opinions. They understand the importance of timing in a conversation, and they value what the others have to say. They know when it is the right time to speak. In the business world, they make astonishing salesmen and spokespeople, since they are masters at the art of conversation. This advantage stems from their capacity to show enthusiasm and assertiveness, while listening carefully and avoiding unnecessary signs of excitement and or coming across as overconfident. In fact, they do very well in many fields. Ambiverts make great therapists. They are good at listening and giving constructive criticism. They make great actors, because they are able to portray both personality extremes, in order to accurately interpret the characters they are playing. They make great teachers because they understanding a large scope of personalities. They understand their students’ needs and their unique ways of learning. They make great managers because they can get teams to meet their goals with understanding and leadership. Ambiverts can achieve a lot with their aptitude to switch from listening to talking with great ease. 4. If you are comfortable around small talk, but not too much of it If you have no trouble entertaining small talk, but get bored when there is too much of it, especially when you are not in your preferred environment, then you may be an ambivert. Pleasantly enjoying talking about the weather or the last time someone had a haircut is fun for the ambivert. But after a while, the introvert traits start to kick in, and ambiverts start to either look for deeper and more meaningful conversations, or they start to retreat to their alone time. As we know now, ambiverts enjoy their bubble of solitude as much as they do their social gatherings. This trait allows them to perfectly balance their energy throughout the day, avoiding unnecessary overspending and unwanted procrastination. That takes us to our 5th sign. 5. If you have the ability to regulate energy levels Now we understand that ambiverts take seriously their balance between staying in and going out. It is mandatory for them. They have a natural tendency to plan their alone time when they need it, and they make sure no one interrupts them, as an introvert would. As a result, they go out and actively socialize with an abundance of positive energy. Their energy is almost contagious. We all know how it feels to have the right amount of sleep, wake up with the right amount of energy, and spend the day like nothing could stop us. Ambiverts strive for that. Since they have no issue resting and meditating, they go out into the world regenerated and full of enthusiasm. It is only natural for them to get energy from being with people and from being alone. And on top of it all, ambiverts can be self-reflective in certain situations and also sort things out by talking with others, leaving their energy free of resentment and anxiety around life’s problems. 6. If you have surprise traits and unwanted behavior People with a middle-of-the-ground personality type may not be able to control their ability to regulate behaviors perfectly. Sometimes they experience slip ups and unexpected turns in their attitude. For example, they might find themselves amazed at how talkative they can be, when they clearly did not feel talking. Or, they could completely shut down in the middle of a conversation, getting completely silent and retracting into observer mode. That is completely normal for an ambivert. It is not an illness or disorder. It can be due to the fact that they are having trouble regulating their energy, lacking sleep, it could be that something in their surroundings has ignited their change of behavior. Ambiverts might find themselves making plans to go see a movie, but if they can’t resonate with the movie or experience, they may quickly start to feel the need to leave the theatre and go do something they enjoy instead. Ambiverts have a great deal of respect for where they spend their energy. 7. If being the center of attention is fun, but tiring Being the perfect mix between introvert and extrovert, ambiverts can be the life of a party. They may sing karaoke, dance in the middle of a circle of friends holding hands, or even take up a dare to swim in the pool late at night. They enjoy being at the center of events. But they can’t do it indefinitely, as an extrovert could easily do. There comes a time when they grow tired of being the center of attention and need to go back to observer mode. The thing is that even though they tend to stay socially invested and enjoy spreading their light to others, ambiverts have an equal drive to self-reflect and introspect, in order to have a grip on where they are and plan their next step in life. 8. If emotional stability is important To ambiverts, emotional stability is a core need. They have been gifted with both introvert and extrovert traits, they can become unbalanced, if they don’t manage those tendencies well. It works like a coin. One side is introversion and the other is extroversion. You never know which one you will get when you flip it. From the moment they wake up, the coin is flipped, and they can expect unwanted emotional instability sometimes. But if they respect their need for balance, they will find themselves emotionally stable and available and ready to tackle on daily challenges with great ease. 9. If you have flexibility and adaptability Ambiverts are known to be the most flexible and adaptive people. Their ability to think both rationally and emotionally gives them a great advantage in their relationships, jobs, and careers. It is very common for them to be great problem solvers. By using a combination of intuition and rational thinking, they can easily spot things an introvert or an extrovert wouldn’t spot, using their specific and unique way of approaching the problem. 10 . If you have a good sense of when to trust Since ambiverts understand both introversion and extroversion, they have a great dexterity in detecting true behaviors from superficial empathy. They usually develop a sixth sense in detecting those they can trust. They can tell when someone is mirroring what they want to hear and see in order to get something they want. Ambiverts prefer to trust people who authentically express their personality. If you are an ambivert, I hope you feel more at peace now, knowing that you don’t have to be an introvert or extrovert. There is a middle ground. 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