Aimee B. Sienes

Speech 3 – Conveying your message GIVE LOVE CHANCES By Aimee Sienes Sajor “Everyone says love hurts, but that is not true. Loneliness hurts. Rejection hurts. Losing someone hurts. Envy hurts. Everyone gets these things confused with love, but in reality love is the only thing in this world that covers up all the pain and makes someone feel wonderful again. Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt,” a quote from Hollywood actor Liam Neeson. I had a 180 degree turn on what Neeson had to say. After shunning myself to not fall in love again after a heartbreak, I was like, “Oh, yeah, he is right!” I had a fare share of heartbreaks but that did not hinder me from falling in love again. And that should not stop you either from falling in love again after being broken-hearted. Why? Because deep within our hearts we have so much love to give and in return love can do so much for ourselves. It’s great to be in love! Isn’t it? Great to experience the wonderful and exciting feeling of loving someone and loving you back in return. It is what I am feeling right now. I am happy, no, overjoyed! Remembering down memory lane, I chanced upon finding one card from my suitor 18 years ago. I would like to share it with you to spread the “kilig” factor. He wrote and I quote, “My feelings for you is not the shortness of the breath of wind. Nor the brief pattering of raindrops. Neither is it the mere filtering of moonlight thru treetops making queer shadows on the earth below. It is love as real as the beating of your heart or of mine. As real as the dew of break of day, as real as the heat of the sun or the coolness of the breath of wind or the whispering caress of the breeze. It is real as life itself. You have inspired me to write when I had desired to leave nothing but a blank sheet. You have urged me to seize the pen once more and what evidence can I present you but this tangible form of my affection with a sincere devotion all because you come like a dream to make my dreams come true. I love you.” Isn’t it wonderful? Can you feel his love for me? Can you imagine what I felt during that time reading his love confession? I bet all the women here know what it feels like to be “kilig”, happy indeed. Though we did not end up together, never had a chance to be a couple. They say, give love a second chance. But for me, give love chances. If you were hurt once, give love another try. If you get hurt again, find love again, as many chances you can give until you find THE ONE. Don’t give up, don’t lose hope. Once you feel that love again, you can be sure to have fire in your life. Ever wonder what makes a woman glow? What makes her beautiful inside and out? Just look at me! It’s the perks of being inlove. While I am in this state, I got that feeling of tingling sensation, sparks and electricity touching someone you love. And I got across an article that confirmed what I am currently feeling. It says: 1. Love helps you look younger. That healthy glow from being in love isn’t a myth. Many studies indicate that people in happy relationships look physically younger than those who aren’t. “With the increasing blood flow to the skin, being in love can increase the supply of essential nutrients and oxygen to your skin cells, making you look healthier,” explains Professor Snyman. 2. Love improves your mental wellbeing. We all know that being in love makes people feel overjoyed, but it’s not just in our heads. People in love generally have increased energy, which makes them excited to discover new adventures and different hobbies. “Loving and being loved helps to vaccinate you against anxiety. When you are in love the brain produces a chemical called dopamine, a feel-good stimulant that is responsible for feelings of bliss, optimism and patience,” says Professor Snyman. “Infatuated people also produce a surplus of a chemical called oxytocin, the bonding hormone. This endorphin spreads a warm, internal flutter throughout the body when it is released during touch or physical intimacy,” he adds. 3. Love improves self-confidence. People in healthy relationships tend to be more confident in all areas of their life. It has been proven that getting married and staying married reduces depression in both men and women. “Having a positive self-esteem comes from being validated and receiving affirmation that you have worth. With improved self-esteem, people in love are often more capable of achieving and maintaining their professional and personal goals in life,”  says Professor Snyman. 4. Love can heal. A new love heals old wounds and start a new journey to a new relationship. 5. Love means having a Happier Life. It may seem obvious that one of love's greatest benefits is joy. Joy in our hearts and joy to share. So before you roll your eyes at all the love struck people around you, keep in mind that there are psychological and physical benefits to being in love.  Furthermore being compassionate and loving to those close to you is bound to have you feeling good about yourself mentally, emotionally and physically too. If that can result in you even looking a tad bit younger then that’s  reason enough to pursue love this 2017. What more can I say? I have said my piece. To be in love is amazing! Heartbroken? Move on! Love is the only thing in this world that does not hurt. Give love chances. Good evening!